I'm in my 40's, and I've had a few long term relationships that have all ended badly.
I went for many years without dating, although I am trying online dating now, without success. When people say "I can't believe you don't have a boyfriend!" it makes me feel like there is something wrong with me, and THAT must be why I don't have a boyfriend.
I have been told I am beautiful, although I don't see it. I do look younger than my 40-something years, and I know I am smart and funny. Believe it or not, I am an extrovert. I am outgoing, even with people I have just met.
What am I doing wrong? People say dating is a game. I am a very genuine person so playing games does not come naturally to me.
I don't even know how to tell if a guy is "hitting" on me. What does that even mean?
I have never had a man "chase" me. How do I get a man to hit on me and then chase me?
If I am out at a bar, for example, either with friends or alone, men never approach me. I feel so defective and pathetic. I want a relationship, I don't want to end up a spinster.
I feel like there is a language everyone but me can speak and understand. I would appreciate any advice. Thank-you.
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There is nothing wrong with you. Many people are in the same situation. When people say dating is a game , they don't mean being in genuine. They mean that it is not a straight forward logical thing.
In your pictures in the online dating, make sure you smile and show teeth. Sometimes guys think women in their 40s are bitter or something. Which is definitely not true. Your profile should be optimistic, playful but realistic. Have standards but be reasonable.
Have you tried speed dating? Singles events ?
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