Two questions, might be kind of long but I'd appreciate it if I could get some solid answers. Thanks in advance.
Quick Note: We're both 18+
So this girl I've been seeing will never text me first. We've acknowledged that we both like each other a lot, and yet it seems to be a one way conversation every time. I'll text her and she replies usually within 30mins if not quicker, but the conversations are always me asking her things with her giving me short replies like "Cool thanks, you too." How the hell am I suppose to keep a conversation going with that? Strange thing is that when I see her in person the conversations are way more balanced. She's even told me that she doesn't want to come off as needy, so I've told her that I love to hearing from her so she doesn't have to worry but still to no avail. Now I seem to feel needy and clingy since I keep texting her first, and now I'm sitting here all day waiting like an idiot for her to text me. What should I do to solve this?
Same girl, obviously, we've known each other for a long time but we only started hanging out maybe 2 months ago and we get along so well. I've never felt this way about a girl, its evident that we like each other since she introduced me to her parents after our first date, and she didn't want me to leave at the end of that same night. Anyways to get to the point how do I ask her to be my girlfriend without saying the words "Will you be my girlfriend?" I'm more than 1001% sure she'll say yes but how do I do it in a sweet way? Should I kiss her after or what?
I'm hoping that this will be a long term relationship, she's the first girl I'm scared to lose, the first girl I've been completely honest with so any help would really help.
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I think you should tell her your feelings. Tell her you aren't interested in any other girls and you would like to start a real relationship with her if she would like the same.. ? See what she says and afterward kiss her if you feel that it's the right thing to do. Do what feels natural.
With regards to her not texting you first.. I am the same exact way and guys I've dated have complained to me about it so many times. I realize it now and have been working on it but I honestly do always feel like I'm bothering my guy when I contact him. I just think he may be busy at work during the day and in the evenings I'm sure he is tired from working. It's not that I think I'll be clingy or needy but I just don't want to bother him. So since the girl you're talking to communicates well with you when you're together then I think you should believe her when she explains her reasons. Give it more time and I bet once she feels more comfortable with you then she will start contacting you first too. Also you could try telling her a specific time to text you. This way she will know you are waiting to hear from her. Say something like "I'll be at work till 9 so text me then" ... something like that might be a good start. This will help her get use to texting you first and maybe help influence her enough so that you won't have to remind her anymore. She will just do it.0