I tried online dating last summer when I moved to a new city for the summer and had some great conversations but never met up with any guys. Once I moved back home I took down my profile but decided to put it back up around New Years. Since then I have talked to a lot of guys but I haven't felt the chemistry or the want to meet them even text them. Then about two days ago a guy messaged me. Well since then we have been messaging back and forth constantly. Something about this guy feels different and I want to meet him but I'm nervous I'm going to come off as desperate if I give my phone number too soon. Is it too soon only after a couple days to give my number? If not what is a casual way to give it? Thanks!
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No. A couple days after actually sounds like the only appropriate time. All the girls online seem to want to string me along (or maintain the email stage for what seems to me, for an extended period of time.
My perspective is this. The Online thing is to make connections. You email back and for for a couple of days, a week max, and by then you've determined if you have a little bit of compatibility. Then you can meet for a drink confident that you can have an interesting conversation. Maybe by that time instead you can talk on the phone, and meet in person later if you're both busy.
But you're not supposed to have the relationship or the actual dates through a medium. The point of the online dating thing is to you know, ACTUALLY MEET PEOPLE AND GET OUT OF THE HOUSE. Not stay at home being timid and screen, screen, screen for months.
I signed up to go on actual dates. Not sit on my computer all day long having conversations with strangers. So that's why I kind of abandoned my OK Cupid profile. It just felt like a complete fucking waste of time.
I think everybody just just post their phone number in their profile. That's my opinion.
So to answer your question. No you won't appear desperate if you give this guy your phone number in less than a week. Think about it this way, if you met him on the street, you would have given him your phone number the day you met him.0