I read an article recently written by a woman about young people’s dating experiences. In this article, she mentioned that it’s harder now for most young men (those who aren’t alpha males) to have success with women than it was in the past.
The reason, she said, is that pre-marital sex is now acceptable whereas in the past it wasn’t. In the past, a moderately eligible girl would be very unlikely to be able to get a VERY eligible guy to commit to her, and therefore if she wanted sex, she would have to settle for a guy on her own level.
Now, a moderately attractive girl CAN have sex with a very attractive guy, even if only for one night. With society no longer demanding commitment, a moderately attractive girl (or maybe even an unattractive girl) can spend her youth circulating from one very attractive guy to the next. And that is allegedly why it’s harder for most young men to have success with girls than ever before.
Do you agree?
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People overestimate how many very attractive guys have sex frequently with girls who aren't attractive. They have attractive girls who want to have sex with them. They don't waste time on unattractive girls. I' m not saying it NEVER happens, but that it's really exaggerated. A lot of articles play this concept up to sell something to angry, celibate young dudes.
From what I've seen, there is promiscuity among many different social groups, not just the elite men sleeping with all the chicks. Generally, it's the same promiscuous people sleeping with other promiscuous people in their social circle, which is usually people around the same range of attractiveness.
Also, speaking from experience and from knowing many men and women who slept around -- people don't ONLY fall in love with the most attractive partner they've been with. There's simply more to it when it comes to personal chemistry between people. It's like friendship -- you like some people better than others because you connect on more levels.
I think one thing that's made it harder for some guys is that men and women have more companionate relationships now. It's not enough to just have a job. The same goes for a woman. It's not enough to be a good cook. People have more free time than ever before, so they're spending time together. Really getting along well wasn't as important in years past, because people didn't spend as much time together.
It's well known that more guys have issues with communication/social interaction. These seem to be the guys that I see struggling the most in the dating world. I think this companionate type of romance makes it harder for people who aren't as good at socialization.0