If a man says he is willing to set aside his desires for a woman so he can be her friend, is it appropriate for her to allow him to kiss her intimately on her lips and fondle and hold her breasts. She calls them warm hugs...Should he even be doing this to her... What damage may this do to her low self esteem?
She was emotionally, sexually, and physically abused for 25 years of marriage. She only knew the man she married. If she didn't submit to his sexual demands he would slap her up. It started on her wedding night.
Now she met this guy last May after being divorced for 2 years. She hid from her ex, most of the first year by staying inside during certain times of the day fearing her ex would find her. She was terrified of the thought of coming across him.
What is a warm hug? and should be taking advantage of this woman. She says she's emotionally connected to him.
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The man should take it really slow and maybe for a while just cuddle with her, and see if she takes the initiative. If she doesn't, though doesn't pull away either, never hurts to just ask her if you could kiss her. If she gives the okay, give her a gentle kiss, and go from there.
That's terrible that she was abused for so long, but that doesn't mean that she'll be 'damaged goods' and untouchable forever. The man will just have to take things slower than usual.0