I've been at university now for 6 months- ever since our Halloween flat party I've been kind of back and forth with this guy from the floor below. He'd ask me down to watch movies and then I'd end up staying the night- we'd do stuff but I've not had sex with him. It was like that for 2 months and then we went on Christmas break. We live in the same city but I heard pretty much nothing from him and never saw him over Christmas. By the time term resumed last week I was pretty sure that was the end of it- but on the second night we'd all been out to a club (we have close friend groups) and I ended up going back to his. This was a week ago and although I've seen him around- I Haven't heard from him- is it time for me to move on or just hang around for a little longer. I'm not even sure what I want from this guy in relationship terms. I just kind of want a little bit more security from him so that I won't just get tossed away. It'll be difficult either way since I see quite a lot of him around campus and on nights out. Any advice is welcome, please help! XXXXX
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Maybe you have to ask him? Ask him out for a cup of coffee at a campus shop...look him in the eye and ask if he wants to move the friendship to another level? You will never know unless you ask and there is nothing wrong with that.
Is he shy? A virgin? ( Are you?) He may be intimidated or not sure what to do next. If you are comfortable in approaching him then take the initiative. You never said if you like him. Do you? Do you want sex with him if you became a couple?
He may be confused or caught up in the campus shuffle/studies ( I have been there). Perhaps you can give him a bit of "direction" if that is what YOU want. Let me know how things work out. It could be fun!0