Girls, have you ever "taken it slow" with someone with whom you had real chemistry?
I just started dating this lovely 25yo girl, we text up a storm but I get some signals that she might prefer to "take it slow". I don't mind that as such, but what is important for me is is it realistic that a girl can be STRONGLY attracted to me on a physical level and want to take it slow? Or she finds me "just okay but with good qualities" is trying to develop affection which isn't there (or just go out).
I ask for both our sakes as without strong physical affection it will fall apart sooner or later anyway.
And Happy Valentine's Day, everyone.
- You have other qualities she likes, but sexually she's probably just settling for you, at best.8% (1)25% (1)12% (2)Vote
- It is completely realistic she is very sexually into you but successfully suppresses ad hides it85% (11)25% (1)71% (12)Vote
- Something else7% (1)50% (2)17% (3)Vote
I'm yet to see a girl who would meet an "OMG OMG SO HOTT" guy at a party and take it extra slow with him, while quickly getting in bed with a guy she has to tell herself she likes because he's got this and that going for him. Quite obviously it's the opposite. So why all these answers?
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Yes a woman can be strongly attracted and take it slow. When I met my fiance' I was 25, and I was in the mood to date date date all summer and just meet a whole bunch of guys. I met him, we went on date, I even told him I was not interested in a relationship at the time and he pursued me anyway. I never went on another date with any other man. It was my strong physical connection to him that prompted me to accept his first date to begin with. I honestly did not think I would fall for him, but I did. I also took it nice and slow, I wasn't in the frame of mind to want to rack up anymore unnecessary lovers, so I wasn't about to take my clothes off quick. We dated for around 2 months before we finally had sex. He would keep trying and keep trying, and get a little further each time, as far as I was comfortable and then I would stop him and we'd just cuddle. Then one night, I just didn't want to stop him. I became his Girlfriend a week after that, we moved in together 2 months after that, and at month 8 he proposed. It's now been almost three years and we get married this summer :)
Point being, yes, when I was getting to where I wanted something serious, I was definitely wanting to take it slow in the physical department. He even told me the fact that I made him wait (especially the first night we met through mutual friends and I stayed in his bed but didn't take my clothes off) made him even more attracted to me.0