I have a date this weekend with a guy. He's older than me and he is a cop-to-be. He is so smart and nice and I don't know why he wants to go on a date with someone like me. I have been having some physical insecurities lately and I just haven't been taking care of myself. I've been breaking out and haven't been able to work out because of homework and other engagements. I feel and look very bloated :/
How do I get over all of this to be happy and presentable on our date?
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I like cops, by the way. They have been good friends to me and they're wives say they're good husbands. Alas, I don't know any female cops personally.
Ask yourself, is Sir Cop thinking, "I really don't know why I asked her out. She's not as smart or nice as I am, so I really have no idea why I asked her out (or said yes if you asked him out) and am willing to spend time and energy to have a good time with her."
Is Sir Cop thinking, "I know exactly why I asked her out (or said yes). She's smart, and nice, and attractive and that is PRECISELY why I asked her out (or said yes)."
The former doesn't make much sense, but the latter does.
The very fact that Sir Cop asked you out, or said yes, is evidence that he doesn't agree with all the things you're thinking about yourself. It's evidence that he finds you attractive. The mere fact he's going out with you and spending time and energy trying to get to know you and having a good time is strong evidence that at this point he thinks you're WORTH getting to know.
You are younger than I am, so take it from one who knows. What we often perceive as external demons are often creatures we ourselves have conjured.
Good luck, have fun, and you take care now!3