I am a virgin at almost 25 years old. I have never kissed a woman, I have never approached a woman, and I have never had a serious relationship with a woman ever in my life. Honestly, the whole process looks stupid and is a waste of time. I don't believe in true love or soulmates. I don't even want children. It's all just a childhood fantasy people have in my opinion that isn't real. Even as a college student, I just have no idea why 2 people want to commit themselves to each other. It looks boring. Why do people date? I don't get it...
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There's a lot you get out of a successful relationship.
My boyfriend and I have been together for four years and it's amazing. Having him means having-
- a person to love and support me through everything
- someone to fall asleep and cuddle with
- sex basically whenever we want
- someone to share my favorite movies/books/tv shows/comics/games with
- a best friend who knows you better than any other
- someone to share secrets/dreams/ambitions/goals with
- someone to talk with about anything
- someone I could spend my whole day with doing nothing but watching movies or cuddling
It's just nice to have that company, to have that special person. And it feels good to get all those things but also to give all those things, as well. There are many examples of bad relationships and it is very difficult to have a successful relationship. My mom has been divorced twice, my dad three times, my biological father bailed when I was only a few months old, my mother's mother was in a marriage with an alcoholic and abusive husband, the list goes on. Yet I still feel that love is real and that it's something worth looking for.
Relationships aren't like the movies- they require a lot of work there is no such thing as an easy relationship. Once you get into the patterns of trust and communication it gets easier but you need to constantly keep in touch with one another and talk to one another and work through all the differences that will come up. And in the end it's worth it. We don't fight. Not even once. Because we know how to talk to each other and how to have a calm discussion. We don't agree on everything but if something comes up that we don't agree on we talk about it until we understand each other and then let it go. We're independent, we respect each other, we love and support each other, we care- all kinds of wonderful things that are really nice to share with another person. Every day is a new adventure, what fun stories will we share, where will we go, what things will we see, what will we experience, what new things can we do? It's only boring if you let it become boring.
Relationships aren't for everyone. I know plenty of people who are Aromantic (don't get romantically attracted to others) and that's fine, it's what makes them happy. So you don't get romance and love, that's just fine just try to stay respectful of the people who do (not that you haven't been, you seemed curious above, not disrespectful). In cases of sex and love it's hard for people of differing view points to really understand each other, but it's good that you're trying, just keep in mind that every one is different and it's not stupid to all people.1
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