I just can't win.
I even tried online dating and I get to talking to a guy and I give him the hint that I want him to call me on the phone and they don't even have the balls to do that. And then it just fizzles out because they never ask me to meet them or go on a date. with one guy, all he wanted to do was text. I'm not good at texting. I don't check my messages very often and it's not a great way to get to know someone.
I said lets meet up, he said "i want to get to know you better." Two weeks later I just told him to forget about it.
I've tried talking to guys whom I meet at university and tell them I want to hang out. they'll act flirty but never actually want to date me or do anything with me. Either that or they'll only want to hook up and I can tell they're not that into me.
Or they're taken.
I don't think I'm ugly per say. Almost everyone has told me that I'm at least cute and I get told I'm pretty most often. Beautiful sometimes too. I have a nice fit body and I get told I have a nice butt and boobs. I don't have any weird marks or stretch marks. I also wax and I'm musically talented. I get told I'm funny.
I guess this has no impact on guys. I've had a guy tell me in the past that I was "intimidating" because I'm smart and I have my life together, but I've asked another guy about it and he negated that. So there's that.
I'm so tired of trying. I hate being alone and I hate FEELING alone but I'm exhausted.
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Ummm...okay. Stretchmarks and some of the things you mentioned are completely trivial to finding a guy that is worth your time.
I understand your frustration because I was once always super frustrated about not finding anyone decent to date who didn't want to just get laid,text all of the time,date multiple people etc. I also decided to try online dating and it was a colossal disaster for the year I tried it. Most guys were mediocre attractive,who always had some type of drama going on or other issues. Then,the guys that were super attractive were into playing games and were into running through girls so they could have as much sex as they wanted to. Somehow,they thought I couldn't see their game and behavior. I found myself becoming more and more disgruntled and jaded. My self esteem also began to take a turn for the worse. I began to think something was wrong with...ME. And you know what...there WAS.
I believe it is extremely important to monitor the energy you are putting out into the universe. Monitor how you FEEL and what you THINK. Do you FEEL desperation? Do you feel sadness regarding dating? Do you feel that there isn't anyone around that will fulfill what you are looking for? DO YOU EVEN KNOW WHAT YOU ARE LOOKING FOR IN A GUY? That is one of the MOST important questions.
Last year around July around the spring time,I decided to think on what I wanted in a guy. I would go to bed thinking about him,and visualizing me and this imaginary guy having fun,going places,what he dressed like,acted like etc. I daydreamed about this man during the day...and before I went to sleep. Then,I began to look at the men I was going on dates with,and I realized that NONE of them deserved me. And honestly,the kind of guy I am into would NEVER be on a dating website because he is just too damn cool to be on something like that. FINALLY,by August of last year I deleted my dating profiles and prepared myself to meet the RIGHT person. I became VERY comfortable with being ALONE. I started to focus on living and enjoying myself,and I stopped thinking about dating and "finding" a guy...and I felt GREAT! One day in September before I left my house for work...i was insanely happy!At this point,I was dressing and FEELING like I already HAD a boyfriend. I got to work and went on a break. A friend and I decided to walk near the pier,and there HE was. This insanely attractive guy,who I wasn't even considering. He saw me,and as I went to leave,he decided to be a MAN and take MY number. I could barely speak because he was so attractive. BUT...i didn't take him that seriously until he showed me he was serious. I was in SHOCK because this guy treated me exactly how I imagined every night before I went to bed. He treats me like a QUEEN every day ALL day. I thank God for sending him into my life because I have never had a guy treat me with as much love and respect as he has given me.
For a LONG time I never actually KNEW what I was actually looking for in a mate.6
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