I have a question. So I'm 28.. Had a long and messy breakup that last one whole year. This is the first month I've moved out and away. And I have never been happier :)
I met a friend of a friend at a party and we kept in touch the last few months. Finally decided to go on a date. I knew it would be a nice enough date. We talked the whole time (which is not a problem for me usually anyway). I laughed a bit. It just felt comfortable and nice enough. He also has a good job, good ambition, nice family...everything I look for.
Problem is, I didn't leave the date smiling and feeling excited to see him again. It was just a normal, pleasant night. I do have a problem feeling attracted to certain guys right away...takes me a while to build that up...but I can learn to be attracted to someone (my ex was a perfect example). My other issue is, this guy doesn't seem to have that edge that excites me. Something badass was missing. Lol.
Anyway, what should I do? Keep in touch? Go on more dates? Move on? What do you guys think?
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The edgy guys are definitely the "badass" type, but do you really think that's what you want? If your ex was the "edgy" type, do you really want to go through another relationship like that? And perhaps this guy is feelin you out as well. Guys aren't dumb, they can sense what a woman wants so perhaps he is hiding his edg :) waiting for the perfect opportunity to reveal this side of him. He sounds very successful and a gentleman on the street, yet a bad boy in bed? ;) Don't write the guy off completely yet, go on another date and see what he reveals about himself that would give him that "edge".0