I mean, on a date or when hanging out with someone of the opposite sex, or on one of those "this might be a date" situations.
When the waiter comes and asks whether the bill should be paid together or should be split... How do you decide?
Do you talk with the other person before about it?
Guys, do you just take charge and take the whole thing without seeing what she wants? Or do you glance at her and see her actions?
Girls, do you stay silent and let the guy make the decision? Or do you quickly say that you'll either take the bill or go dutch before he has the chance to take the bill?
How do you communicate this? It's always an awkward 2 seconds for me, especially on a first date.
What I wanted to know is: How do you decide this between the two of you? Talk about it before the date? On the way there? Eye contact? Some gesture? How? Because for me, it's always an awkward moment.
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If it's a date and HE asked me to go out with him then I do not even think about the check.. he pays it and that's that.. however, IF he did ask me to pay my way then I would .. I'm always prepared.. BUT.. he shouldn't ever expect me to join him on a second date after that. I've been raised by a good man who taught me how I should be treated by a man. If a man does not want to invest the few bucks on dinner then what on earth makes me think he will invest anything else on our future...
The only time I've paid for my dinner or drinks when out with a man is when it was with my guy friend.. My guy friend would love to date me but we've been friends for 10 years and he is not my type. He always says to me "let me take you out to dinner" and I do agree but at the end I always always pay for mine and sometimes I pay for his if I'm feeling generous lol.
Actually I was on a date last Wednesday night and my guy made a joke to the waiter .. he said "oh she'll take the check"... and honestly I laughed hysterically.. because A) he picked the restaurant and IF I was ever gonna pay HELL NO I wouldn't have picked that expensive place. I would have picked the local hot dog stand lol and B) that is just funny because he has been begging me to allow him to take me out on a date..
Anyway- I've answered similar questions like these in the past and I know a majority of people do not agree with me.. they vote my answers down lol.. Do I care though? nope.. not one bit.. I truly believe that if men were held more responsible for pursuing women and women would stop running around with their "feminist act" then relationships and marriages would last a hell of a lot longer.. I believe strongly in Gender roles and while I can agree that a good debate could go on between myself and another with an opposing viewpoint.. You just can't deny statistics.. divorce rates.. and pay scales.. Bottom line.. with me.. the man pays.. want me to pay? Sure I will.. when we are married and our date money comes out of OUR pocket.. until then I'm not paying for a man to enjoy my company until he decides he's ready to go drop his pants for the next lady.. nah no thanks..3
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