I dont lik rushing into things, and i am not desperate for a relationship.
I dont see the point in putting on a title into something when you barely know a
person. Even saying 'dating' is more of a title and expectation, than i want to have the pressure of.
I like the calm patient low stress environment of getting to know a person as friends over time before getting involved... However i'm wondering if there are negative aspects of getting to know someone very slowly, when you both like each other enough to be in a relationship. but don't know each other well enough to do so.
any thoughts welcome.,
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Until you actually start dating, you're only learning about 40% of them, and until you're in a monogamous relationship, you still are only touching on small parts of compatibility.
So you're investing huge amounts of time in what is probably going nowhere.
If it works out, it can all be very nice, but its just far too slow an approach to actually try dating enough people to find a good compatible match.
I think you're imagining dating is a more serious thing then it actually is.
I think you're also imagining you aren't 'involved' when emotionally you are just as involved in this process as in any other - perhaps more so, since you're going to be dwelling on imagining things with this one person a lot.1
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