i keep hearing different opinions about if a girl should be active or passive when it comes to a guy she likes... there's the saying guys like the chase, but i feel like i've talked to and heard quite a few guys say they like it when girls take the initiative. if a guy is generally indecisive how do you know how assertive to be without being aggressive?
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Some guys like the chase - but not all. And even if the guy does like the chase, it shouldn't matter if the girl pursues him for a change, if he likes the girl as well.
If that sort of thing puts him off, then he likes the chase more than the girl. And guys like that, when they catch a girl, get bored easily. Because the chase is over.
The flip side is that some girls are overly passive and worse, crush on a guy who has no idea she exists or is too shy to make a move. Tie that together with the idea that so many girls have zero idea how to signal their interest in a way that the average guy will notice... and you have a recipe for disaster.
Girls should not be afraid to make a move if they want something - but most of them are afraid. Afraid of being judged, afraid of being too obvious, afraid of looking desperate.
Truthfully, girls who can conquer their fears are pretty attractive.1