My friends think I am crazy to be so patient with a shy guy. I just honestly think he is worth the wait because he has awesome qualities about him that I like.
We have hung out 4 times and made out 3 out of the 4 times. I said once when we were kissing that I really like kissing him then he got a huge smile on his face and said well good. He is not much of a phone person so it's hard to read into what he is thinking. We hung out for the first time at the end of January. We text a little bit each week but he is just very quiet. I asked him the last time we hung out if I annoy him when I text him. (I only text twice a week, I don't want to over do it plus I have a life as well.) He said he doesn't mind at all but it's just that he doesn't have much to talk about.
I've had numerous other guys ask me on dates/to hang out but I have turned them down. I just am into this guy and want to give him a fair chance. The shy guy approached me in the bar to start things off. (We knew each other in the past and hung out a few times years ago but he was too shy to make a move. So I did this time.)
He told his friends that he was talking to me and I have a hunch that he mentioned me to his Dad. This weekend I asked him to hang out but he said that this weekend was not going to work because he had family things to help with and listed a whole list of items he needs to do. He is super close with his family. I just don't know at what point he will start initiating more things. Or if that was a brush off. We had a really good date night the prior weekend.
I am certainly not desperate, I could go on other dates but am choosing not to right now. I really want him and only him but don't know what I should write it off as he is not interested. Please help. What do I do now?
Shy guys please give me hope here or something!
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Sweetie, so far from what I am reading, you are making Great head waves with the "shy guy," and I commend you. For everything you have accomplished with this fish out of water sort of guppy guy, you have certainly come a long ways. Keep up the good work.
As long as you are not pushy, Nor too forward with anything, he will most likely stick around. And with More togetherness, more communication, this may even end up a perfect partnership in the future.
If this 27 year old guy is who you want, who you have the best chemistry with, then nurture your relationship. And being you Are his first girl, makes this even more special for him. Feel honored.
No, I don't feel he was blowing you off at all by telling you of his sincere other plans to help his dad. He most likely Is very family oriented, and just would like to divide up his time between you and---his other school of "family fish."
I don't see anything here showing me he is Not into you, and absolutely do Not, "write off" the shy guy. True, as you already know, there Are other fish in the sea, but with a little patience and understanding and effort on your part, you just might have the------Catch of the day.
Good luck. xx2