There is a new guy in my life and i really like him a lot but I don't know how to handle the situation or what to do. He is a great guy and he has a lot of great qualities. There are so many great things that I love about him and I'm starting to fall for him. But I found out that he was hurt really bad in the past by 2 girls. I don't know what the 2 girls did to hurt him but I know he was deeply hurt by what ever happened. A mutual friend told me that he really likes me a lot but he is just taking his time and being cautious but he does really like me a lot. Most days (9 out of 10) I feel like he does like me a lot but other days I feel like he has a wall up or something. I notice that he makes jokes a lot about me talking to other guys. He'll ask what I'm up to then he'll joke and say I'm probably with my other boo or he'll say I have multiple boo's. All of this is not true of course. He is the only guy I am talk to and trying to get to know deeper at the moment. I know how it feels to be hurt, lied to and used. I would never do that to someone else. I'm a good woman and I wouldn't hurt him. It really bothers me that he says jokes like this. I told him that I don't think its funny but he says he's just playing but I think it's deeper than that and he doesn't want to admit it. I fall for him more and more each day but this makes me wonder if I should pull back a bit? I want to look out for myself as well because I don't want to get hurt either. I don't know if he's ready for all the love that I have in my heart. I don't know if he's ready for the real thing. I could show him the right way that a partner should love him and how you should love each other. Should I stop all forms of intimacy with him and pull back a bit? Or should I continue things the way they are?
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I'd say go all in and have a deep, close talk to him about it or just tell him you're going to back off. No wishy washy stuff. That rarely gets anything resolved.
However, it is up to you to decide if you think it'd be best to try to go all in or back off completely. Is it worth the risk to put yourself out there? Is it worth the risk to pull back? etc etc.0
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