I had been hanging out with this very shy but super nice guy that I've known for many years. We had hung out in the past to go on a couple of dates but the both of us were too shy to make a move. Back in January we started talking/going on dates. We got along so incredibly well. We made out a few times and our personalities just clicked. He told his family and friends all about us.
The first night we hung out he mentioned to me that he had sent out his application for jobs all over the United States. He wasn't sure if he would even hear back so I didn't let it worry me. Fast forward to a few weeks later I could tell he was acting a bit distant and I finally called him out on it.
He had been getting phone interviews/actual interviews all over the place so he said he didn't want to get too serious with me until he knew where he would end up for his full time job. This is completely understandable and I respect him so much for not stringing me along just to up and leave me.
I really like him a lot and we agreed in one text message that we would keep it casual for the time being. (We have not had sex and I'm not sure I'm ready for that anyway) Where do I go from here? I'm not desperate by any means and have had many other guys approach me. I just feel something special with this guy and I don't want to blow my chances in case he ends up in a nearby area to me.
I can't just forget about him because I felt a really good connection with him but I don't think I can really do much other than wait and see. Has anyone ever been in a situation similar to me? How did it turn out?
I wonder if he is feeling the same way as me.. he seemed down and out when we talked about it.
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Yes! Awhile ago I was seeing a med student, and I really really really liked him. However, he can't control where he does his residency, told me he didn't want to be serious because of this. We also had a connection. We are great friends now. My point is, if things are supposed to work they do. It sucks, I get that believe me! I think that if you care, I mean really care, like want him to be happy even if you can't be with him care, then be his friend, and support him and just deal with the hurt. Sorry I can't give you a better answer.0