I used to be the nicest guy ever. Like I used to literally do anything for a girl that I was even mildly attracted to. And all of those girls always took advantage of that and used to play games with me. I'm not talking about friend zoning, I mean like going on dates with me and then just acting like a spoiled brat and testing how much shit I could take. And I always fell for that stuff because I thought it was what a gentleman was supposed to do. But it was getting me nowhere with women so I changed my personality completely. I don't know if I just always chose the wrong type of women or if most women will take advantage of attractive nice guys but I had to change.
And it worked way better than I thought it would. I have no problem getting dates with women and even hooking up with some of them on the first few dates. And that's because I got the mindset that I am a great catch and women I go on dates are already interested in me or they wouldn't be with me right now. So I use that to my advantage and end up manipulating women into having sex with me. If she doesn't put out within the first 3 dates they never hear from me again. And when we finally do have sex they never hear from me again also.
I know it's fucked up and really mean but I just can't trust women anymore. I know if I was that nice guy again most of the girls I have done this too would have taken advantage of him.
My sex life is good but I still feel really empty inside. But I'm afraid to commit to a girl because I don't trust most girls. Do you think once I find the right girl I will stop doing this and give her a chance or should I see a relationship councilor?
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I think you need to get over it. No offense, but I don't sugarcoat.
You think you're the only one to get hurt? You think you're the only one to get your heart broken? The only one to feel unappreciated? You're not. It happens all the time and while the selfish, tacky, manipulative girls are guilty, you are also to blame for teaching them that it was okay to treat you that way. Taking accountability for that and owning up to that is the first step to getting out of this psychological mess. These females showed you what they were about and you accepted it. While that doesn't make them any less wrong, it makes you an accomplice to your current state of mind. Truthfully, had you put your foot down and said "You are a low quality female and you do not deserve what I bring to the table" then moved on with your life with that strong, sturdy attitude: you would still be a diamond in the rough, but now you've lowered yourself to just another ragged rock.
You wanna know why you feel so empty? Because you only strive for empty ass experiences. You seek out experiences that don't even have the framework for being fulfilling. Stop blaming the entire female gender for the actions of a select few. It's not fair to other girls and you are decreasing your integrity in the process.
Your solution in three simple steps.
1.) Get over it. Accept that these SPECIFIC INDIVIDUALS were low quality, tactless, distasteful females and move on. Stop giving them power over you, even in their absence.
2.) Understand that there is such thing as a hurt worth having. Pain is like a grindstone and you will either come out ragged, rough to the touch, and ugly or refined and polished. So don't be afraid to get hurt; it's all about how you let that pain mold you.
3.) Find your way back to the diamond within you or accept a mediocre love life forever.2