Hey ladies, I've been single now for 8 months and I'm having trouble meeting someone. . What can I do to make myself attractive to women. . Please help.
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The best way is as avbgirl said... through practice. I have personally started approaching random people, whether they be men, women, old or young. The idea is to get over the issues you have with approaching strangers. The problem with approaching attractive women is that you're hit with two heavy forces. The first force is the general fear of approaching random strangers, regardless of who they are. From young, we are told that strangers should not be approached or talked to. You need to overcome that general fear. The next force is the anxiety you naturally get when having to talk to women you are deeply attracted to. So you're fighting two forces here which have to be overcome.
To get over this, you need to change the way you view approaching. You can't put any importance or significance to approaching people. You literally need to give it zero significance, because in reality, its not. For myself, i don't call it "approaching" anymore, because it builds it up too much. Instead, i call it "Throwing out hooks" like a fisherman. I simply throw out a hook. Sometimes the fish are biting, and sometimes they aren't. But just because they don't bite, it doesn't mean im a bad fisherman. It simply means that the fish weren't biting. Also, in terms of what to say... it seems like a lot of guys are so concerned with finding the perfect line that is going to magically make the girl wet and sleep with you on the spot. Attraction doesn't work that way. In reality, there isn't a perfect line, but a number of different paths you can take which will get you a good result.
So don't be too obsessed with what you're saying. Take more care on what SHE is saying. One thing I was taught is that its more important to be interested, than it is to be interesting. Throw out the hooks, and try to get her to do most of the talking, because that is what girls like to do. Lastly, make your intent clear. Don't be afraid to tell her you think she is attractive.3
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