I have been dating a guy for a month and a half. Things have been going really well, but every now and then he'll tell me to text him or call him tomorrow at the end of our phone conversation. Is he insecure? Is he gauging my interest? He calls and texts consistently, but it annoys me that he tells me to do this. Would you call and text him when he tells you to? Or wait it out for him to contact you again? For example, ok Friday night he told me to text him tomorrow. I did and we met for lunch and as I was leaving lunch he told me to call him later, but I said I would be busy most of the night. We never said anything about today, so should I wait for him to contact me or call him later? The last few days it's been me initiating the contact and I don't want to make it into something he expects.
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I agree with iampikachu. It simply seems like he wants you to be a bit more active, especially if you haven't been in the past? I'm not sure since you didn't state that in your question.
Anyway. It does seem like he doesn't want to be the only one who initiates anything, which is good. You should try to split it equally between the two of you, and kind of try to establish a "back and forth" system. And, guys are really afraid of being clingy. It's only been 1.5 months, so maybe he's still kind of insecure and doesn't want to come off as too strong and drive you away. He's simply trying to involve you.
But yes, if he turns the table completely and you end up being the only one who's initiating all the time, you could say the same thing to him and ask him to contact you instead.0