So from anyone who has been through stuff like this, or in the "different area" , guys or girls, does it get better? I'm just curious, because it really seems I am the most unfortunate person when it comes to personal life. I am overweight (like 20 lbs over ) and I sometimes get called names, guys don't look at me, only a few who are either older, mediocre or who are just desperate. I always get friendzoned. And I am really shy and self-concious, low self-esteem because of all the name-calling and frienzoned thing. I really don't feel the need of a boyfriend, but I sometimes really want one and just feel lonely. And I know , because of the way I look, I shouldn't even have standards above average.. At the same time I'm also afraid because I'm 17 close to 18 never had a bf, have no idea how to kiss, which is embarassing. My mother and friends tell me when it's my time, I'll be so happy, there's no rush etc . And I know they have a point. One of my friends for example is staying with a guy she doesn't like at all, she's desperate, and it's not like she hasn't had relationships before. But I DONT want to do like her. Because it wouldn't mean anything and I'd regret it. BUT this is just my case, I'm curious in other cases too, like being the really smart kid, or the loner etc and if it got better for you.
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Alright sweetheart. You're very negative on yourself. Here is my experience and I am sure it might help you in some way. I was overweight in high school. I was 165cm tall and 80kg. Now, that I am about three years out of high school, I can tell you, a lot has changed. But you have to start changing yourself, not personality, mind you. Start changing your routine or turn your life around to be happy. By the time I finished high school, I lost about 15kg because of my motivation to change. So that is one thing you have to think about.
I used to be the geeky kid that no one wanted to talk to or hang out with. But now, I am in university, doing medical science. Those people who thought it was 'uncool' to talk to you... look at where they are now. To me, high school brings out the immaturity in everyone. Once you're out of high school, everyone realises that it is time to grow up and stop fussing or worrying about little things. I don't know if this helped but you have to think positively and if you're unhappy with yourself, start making those small changes to improve your happiness.1