I've never had a boyfriend before, but I started dating this guy a month ago. When we're sitting and talking sometimes he'll rub my knee or just above it and there have been a couple of times when he's touched my thigh briefly. Respect is a huge thing for me and I don't feel like he's doing it in an inappropriate way, but I still wonder if it's okay to let him do that. I don't want him to think I'll just let him do whatever he wants, but also don't want to come off as uninterested.
So, is it okay to let him do that?
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Rather than just waiting for him to find your boundaries bit by bit, just have a low-key, casual conversation about both of your physical expectations and what you're comfortable with. That may seem awkward if you've never been in a relationship, but it's pretty necessary since neither one of you can read the other's mind. And if he finds some boundary and you're all nervous and over react to it, it will cause a lot more issue than it had to than if he knew what the boundary was before he reached it. You're a month in, I don't think it's too early to be having some kind of a conversation about it.0