Should I let my boyfriend touch my legs?

I've never had a boyfriend before, but I started dating this guy a month ago. When we're sitting and talking sometimes he'll rub my knee or just above it and there have been a couple of times when he's touched my thigh briefly. Respect is a huge thing for me and I don't feel like he's doing it in an inappropriate way, but I still wonder if it's okay to let him do that. I don't want him to think I'll just let him do whatever he wants, but also don't want to come off as uninterested.

So, is it okay to let him do that?


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Most Helpful Guy

  • Rather than just waiting for him to find your boundaries bit by bit, just have a low-key, casual conversation about both of your physical expectations and what you're comfortable with. That may seem awkward if you've never been in a relationship, but it's pretty necessary since neither one of you can read the other's mind. And if he finds some boundary and you're all nervous and over react to it, it will cause a lot more issue than it had to than if he knew what the boundary was before he reached it. You're a month in, I don't think it's too early to be having some kind of a conversation about it.

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What Guys Said 3

  • If you are not deciding to accept him as possible soul mate or enjoying sex with him, ask him to stop touching you there. You may restrict him for a formal kiss or some close sittings but not in a arms reach. Tell him directly that you do not like his this or that thing.

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  • If you're cool with it then by all means allow him to do so. Just let him know when he's approaching your boundaries.

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  • At some point or another you will need to get sexual or its just a glorified friendship with the odd cuddle or kiss thrown in. Dont give in to his every demand if you aren't comfotable, but dont hold out forever, he may go walkies.

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What Girls Said 3

  • If you're ok, it's ok.

    The way to not get walked all over is by stating when you're not approving of something.

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  • Talk to him about it.

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  • Well that depends on what you want. He is testing the waters so to speak. First he will start at one point and if there is no objection then he will keep creeping up until he's in your panties. So you need to decide what is acceptable to you and where you see this heading. You may need to have the conversation with him whether you want to venture into the sexual aspect of your relationship. If your not ready for that then you need to express that.

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