Okay, so i have a dilemma. I'm a very attractive girl according to worldly views and based off friend, and stranger remarks. (Both face and hour glass figure). My personality is caring, sweet, cute, fun/funny, free spirited and open minded. I'm also respectful, honest, intelligent and ambitious.
My problem i think, is that I'm a sensitive and emotional person. I feel things very intensely. I can be very happy one moment, then incredibly sad and crying in my room the other.
The emotional part of me sometimes causes me to text too much when getting to know a guy in the dating phase, and to worry too much about what he may be thinking etc... It's hard for me to not get too into it too quickly as well...
So with that being said, given my character which I can not change (trust me I try so hard to hold back!), do you think if i meet a guy who truly likes me, that he would stick around anyway? Or does this type of behaviour scare guys off automatically and prevent them from seeing who I am? It just keeps happening lately, where I either attract a player (SO often), or that things are going great with a guy, then all of a sudden he decides he's still not over his ex and not ready for a relationship etc... It's starting to really attack my self esteem... Why does this keep happening to me? How could I prevent this from continuing to happen? I can't help but care and get excited about someone if I llike them... it's just part of who I am.
Any suggestions would be very appreciated.
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you attract these types of guys because you have low self esteem. everything you wrote screams "people pleaser" "i don't think im good enough". "I'm trying to prove im awesome? aren't I awesome? am I ok? im ok right?" I mean you seem insecure and that's partly why you aren't getting satisfactory relationships. there will always be players and guys who turn out to lose interest, but u can't take that personally. there is nothing u can do about it. just don't be thirsty over guys and stop letting them affect you so much mentally. put YOU as a priority above anything, not making sure some dude likes you. when u know you're the shit then men will automatically follow2