Rebound got pregnant what would you do?

[Anonymous]

If you were a guy rebounding with a girl and all of a sudden she becomes pregnant and to top it off the rebounds mother is terminally ill what would you do? would you stay with her and turn it into a relationship

[celestialdaeva]

It's hard to "stay" with someone you were never with. Assuming this pregnancy is not being terminated, I would expect a mature man in this situation to own up to his responsibility, be supportive of the mom during her pregnancy, and be an actively involved father. I would no expect him to try to forge a relationship where there wasn't one, and I certainly wouldn't expect marriage. (I noticed you called the pregnant chick's mom the dad's "mother in law" in another comment.) If the two get closer and a relationship happens, cool. But it should definitely not be forced.

[Jager66]

@celestialdaeva:
A mature woman, if she has the child, happily lets a man choose for him self if he wants to be a father or not. She does not use shaming language or the courts to force father hood onto him.

[celestialdaeva]

Jager66, that has absolutely nothing to do with maturity. Sorry, dude. If the father doesn't want to be involved, a mature woman will accept the fact that she got knocked up by an immature loser. A mature woman will not try to force him to have a relationship with the child. However, a mature woman will also recognize that the needs, including financial, of her child are far more important than preventing babydaddy temper tantrums.

[Jager66]

Ah more shaming language I see.. so is a woman who accidentally gets pregnant and does not want the child also a "immature loser"? or is that standard only for men?

If a woman chooses to have a child that is her choice and her responsibility. Any woman who forcefully takes child support from a man who did not consent to children prior to getting pregnant or who was never married to the father is 100% equal in moral character as some one who owns human slaves. A mature & moral human being does not impede the free will of another.

[celestialdaeva]

You consent to a baby being made when you shoot your load in a vag. Quit trying to convince me men are victims in the baby-having process. You just sound douchier and douchier the more you talk.

[celestialdaeva]

Also, he who calls women "monsters" gets mocked when whining about being "shamed".

[Jager66]

You shame me because I will not concede to your opinion that slavery is good and just when it's a woman benefiting and a man enslaved. I shame you for being pro human slavery, I oppose it regardless of race, gender, religion etc... It's not me who has the problem if you cannot see the difference.

Sex is not consent to be looted under threat of violence every month for 20 years. (if the couple was married or agreed to have children they are both responsible, obviously)

I know you strongly disagree with me on this but women are human beings! they are adults with intelligence, hopes, dreams, fears, pains, ambitions etc.. they are perfectly capable of making their own decisions without the need of men to baby them and shield them from the world and it's consequences for good or bad. I honestly do not know why you hate humanity so much that you would rob both women and men from their agency.

[celestialdaeva]

LMFAO. Slavery? Threat of violence? You need to go crawl back under your rock, man.

[Jager66]

Laugh all you want, if you had any good arguments you would have made them.

If someone is forced to work and give you the fruits of that work under the threat of violence that is slavery. If you think there isn't a threat of violence then you clearly have no idea what happens when people don;t pay child support, if you don't even know that WHY? are you even debating the issue?

[celestialdaeva]

Please, oh wise one, educate me on this alleged "violence" to which a babydaddyslave is subjected.

[Hatingcourgarlady]

Ok, the right thing to do is to assume responsibility because that baby is going to be an orphan. But, considering some friends experience, you need to be careful with this woman.

[findingdreamland]

Agree with you

[COCOCHANEL]

wtf is up with calling a person a rebound? sex is sex. a child is a child.
i think i'm going to go throw up now.

[Jager66]

I would be SOOO fucking angry OMG! angry. wow. Only the absolute stupidest most irresponsible women alive get pregnant by mistake. There are just way to many options for women to avoid pregnancy, there is no excuse except mental retardation, psychopathic manipulation or child level irresponsibility.

If she tried to hit me with child support I would live homeless or buy a sail boat and disappear before I gave her a dime. Under NO circumstance would an unwanted pregnancy turn it into a relationship but would 100% end things immediately.

[celestialdaeva]

there is also contraception failure. but i mean, who needs to acknowledge faultless errors when you can point fingers and call names? that's what real men do. the mature ones, anyway.

only the absolute stupidest most irresponsible men alive get a woman pregnant by mistake. there is just such a simple way for men to avoid getting a woman pregnant, there is no excuse except mental retardation, psychopathic narcissism or child level irresponsibiility.

Condom up, bro.

[Jager66]

Nope but nice try.
Contraception failure is not an excuse, it's very very easy to double up or even triple up on methods and the odds that all fail is diminuative.

Yes men should always use condoms in my opinion. except *maybe* in the most trusted of relationships. Also men only have 1 option available and it can and does fail with some regularity so until men have more options unfortunately the responsibility is mostly on the woman. her body her responsibility.

[BoundByCuriosity]

@celestialdaeva thumbs up. it takes two to tango.

[celestialdaeva]

Women should double or triple up on contraceptives? Are you fucking kidding me? You wearing 3 condoms is much safer than a woman being on 3 types of birth control. I see its psychopathic narcissism we're going for, here?

[cipher42]

You cannot even understand how angry your response has made me. So if you're trolling, good job. If not, you need to rethink your damn values. Firstly, accidents happen. Birth control fails. It's not the woman's fault. Secondly, there's this thing called taking responsibility for your own actions. You seem to fail to understand that if you have sex with a woman, and you don't ensure that proper protection is being used, it's your fault too if she gets pregnant, and she has every right to demand money from you to take care of the child.

[Jager66]

@celestialdiva yes I know, how DARE I suggest that women who are serious about not getting pregnant take responsibility for their bodies.

Wearing more then 1 condom increases the risk of failure considerable, honestly if you don't even know that why are you even debating the issue?

[Jager66]

@cipher42 When did I say it's not my job to do my part in safe sex practices?
She has ZERO right to demand money! Just because it's legal for her to do so does not mean she isn't a monster for doing it.

[celestialdaeva]

There's definitely a monster in this hypothetical situation, and it ain't the babymama.

[COCOCHANEL]

have you seen les miserables?

[Jager66]

I saw the old a long time ago, I think.. are you asking me?

[BoundByCuriosity]

im not sure what the ill mother has to do with anything...

if she 'just a rebound' i might try and see if more can come of it, but i wouldn't have high expectations.

but knocking a chick up isn't a good enough reason to commit to her. by all means, you should be a man and support her, and support the child should she be dumb enough to want to keep it in this situation. but yeah you are under no obligation to stay.

[celestialdaeva]

This is the most rational and mature answer.

[Anonymous]

First I would note that this sounds like a really dramatic movie. Second I would advise her, as she's terminally ill, to terminate the pregnancy. Finally I would stay at her side for a few months/years until she's dead then hop back into the game.

[Asker]

I should have clarified that the sick person would be his mother in law

[Opinion Owner]

This is just getting better and better...

[Hyped_up_on_coffee]

I would run away to Belgium

[findingdreamland]

Come I am waiting for u

[Hyped_up_on_coffee]

Nooooooo!