So I started talking to this guy online at the end of February . We met once without my parents knowing only because its hard for me to get to that second date. Well things went well. So come the next time I go out to see him, I tell my parents. I see him two more times after that and then last night my mom talks to me about him and everything she doesn't like.
Let me point out that I have never had a boyfriend and this guy is amazing, he enjoys spending time with me and getting to know me more. And we have been intimate, every time we are together. I know... don't judge me.
Anyway my mom feels a guy his age (31) shouldn't be with a girl my age (25). That he is after one thing is sex. And he will take advantage of your vulnerability and your experience. A guy like that should not be chasing after girls like you. It isn't right, something is wrong.
I really don't see the age difference as a big deal, I have met guys my age and they are immature and jerks. And my mom says from that asking me how many guys have I dated to know that there's so much more. And suggests Match. com to me and that she would pay for it.
A little more background about the guy I am seeing, he lives at home but only to help out his family, he was on his own before. He has no car, license was taken away for speeding but he's working on it.
Now I get my mom's concerns and worries but why can't she be happy for me. It's like she is basically saying that she doesn't want me dating this guy. I admit I need to slow things down with him and really get to know him but he makes me happy, I feel wanted, and special. He makes me feel good inside.
I was hysterically crying last night when she talked to me and points I may have snapped a little but most of the time I didn't know what to say to her cause she got me so upset.
I don't want to end it with him, I don't want to lose him but i'm not sure how this is going to work with the way my mom feels about him. Help!
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I don't know your parents or how you usually communicate with them, but if they are like 99% of the parents in the world, all they care about is your safety and happiness, always keep that in mind. They don't see what you see, and they are probably just very afraid he will break your heart and make you sadder in the long run.
You said you feel happy and special around him, and that's all most of us can ask for in a good relationship, good for you :) .
I don't have a lifetime of relationships , but I've had a few, and sometimes we tend to look past the bad things and see only what we want to see, what makes us happy, which is perfectly normal.
I'm not saying he's not a great guy, but given your lack of experience, you might be misjudging the situation (again, not saying you are, but the chance exists).
But you feel happy, and being your first, you must be in the clouds :). Enjoy every moment with him, but don't do anything you don't want to do out of fear of losing the relationship, there are a lot of guys out there who I'm sure would love to be with you.
And don't hope that will last forever. People break up, one moment everything is great, and then things just fall apart, it happens, I'd advise you to always be ready for that. Cherish the good times with all your heart, but don't let the bad (if they come) take you down.
Hope it helped, best of luck :)4
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