Cause I don't.
The friend zone to me is something some loser made up when frustrated by rejection.
Someone on tumblr put it very well:
"Girls aren't machines you put niceness coins into and get sex out of"
Also I was friends, like just friends, with a girl for 2.5 years or so before we started dating. So no, its not real.
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Whether its real but common, real but uncommon or 'fake' depends on how you define the friendzone.
It is true that in the majority of platonic relationships the girl has no interest in the guy beyond being friends. In a minority of cases she does. Generally that status doesn't change... she's either always found him to have potential, or never.
Its not a 100% rule. Sometimes she might grow to have feelings for him (though its rare), sometimes he just honestly changes and grows and becomes more attractive.
And yes, it can work the other way. A guy can by showing no interest make a girl think he's not into her and this causes her to view him less as a potential romantic partner. she sees no 'chemistry'.
but these are all less common situations.
Generally she knew within a day of meeting him if he was a 'maybe' or a 'no' for more then friendship. But guys will indeed spend months or years having a crush on a friend without knowing if there's any potential or not.1