My family is very religious but I'm not at all I still believe in god though. I've been dating this amazing guy for over a year now but I knew from the start nothing could ever come out of it in the end because he's from a different religion. If my dad got to know about this back home (I live in a different country came here for education) he'll probably go ballistic he's fucking crazy I'm 100% sure he'll threaten to kill my mom hell he might actually do it apart from that my whole family from my mothers side will disown me completely I don't even need them but it's just my mom I'm worried about I love her and she is my world and I can't believe I've actually done I mean I've known how my family would react yet I still chose to date the guy and lead him on. He was talking about marriage two days ago and I finally told him the truth and he flipped out and I understand what I've done is so wrong lead him on knowing nothing could come out of it in the end but damn I really love this guy and I don't think there's anyone better out there for me than him. He's pretty mad at me and I don't know what I should do I'm torn between the love of my life and my moms safety somebody help me!
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You have to make a choice between family and yourself. It sounds like you are very torn and you have to think about several things. Having grown up in a religious background myself I understand how psycho it can make people.
how important is religion to you? Do you want to raise your family with those values when you have children? It sounds like you may not be so religious yourself considering you dated outside the tradition. That is fine but you have to remember that when a family is very religious they are sadly close minded most of the time. Leaving religion also means leaving them sometimes.
Also remember that love is a feeling. Think about what you want in a future and what kind of family you want. The divorce rate is higher for mixed marriages because love is nice but it fades and changes and then all you are left with is your differences which cause clashes. Many people fall in strong deeply infatuated love and then it fades and they never considered how incompatible they are outside the feelings and hormones. A lasting marriage is about shared values and goals compromise negotiation and harmony.
At the end of the day it's only you who will stare back at you in the mirror. You have to make the choices that are right for you. You can't be responsible for your parents forever. You have to do what's right for you no matter what it is because at the end of the day living your life for others and stifling yourself is awful. You only live once. Best of luck.0