When he does drugs, his pick is coke and weed, he gets really selfish, lies about it cos he knows I don't like it, and puts himself first.
He's not cheated that I know of or anything... but he's being weird... I think it may just be the drugs. He tells me over and over again how much I mean to him and he may have to leave because he doesn't like seeing me hurt and I deserve so much more because I'm such a great girl to him and just a good one over all.
I really want to be there for him. I admit I've yelled at him and made him feel terrible for his addiction... when really I should have been more supportive. I don't want to have to leave... we've been together for a realllllyyy long time like several years. I'm 22 he's 23.
We dated before in highschool and got back together in college... He said the first time he needed to see if what we had was real... that he needed to be single. And he started talking to me in college again telling me how no girl was like me and he really misses what we have.
Problem is... he's been a drug addict since the first time we broke up. And I think the drugs are controling him.
I really, really love this guy and I want to be more supportive of him... not tell on him to his parents anymore...which he is still mad at me for doing... that's why he's kicked out of his house right now, struggling to pay rent.
I feel horrible. I was just trying to help... but I just ruined it i guess...
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"I admit I've yelled at him and made him feel terrible for his addiction... when really I should have been more supportive."
Quite the contrary, you already were most supportive by making him feel bad. That is all you can do about it, make him feel awful when he is on drugs and be friendly if he isn't. Try to get him into rehab all the time and blame and shame him for doing drugs.
What you have to realize about addiction is that:
1. Addicts will always be addicts
2. Addiction is always stronger than any love or fear or any other emotion
If drugs make him feel so much better it takes something that does make him feel so much worse to fight it if he tries to withdraw (which doesn't exist, but something is better than nothing). Chances to get out of it are dim, but they exist. Without rehab and constant therapy though they are even lower. Honest advice: leave him for your own sake. While he is on drugs it all might look a lot less dramatic than it really is. You only get really fucked once you stop using. He might also leave you if you are helping, who knows. If you start to fight the addiction you do as much fight the person who has it. It is all bumpy and hopeless.0