So I'm a pretty nice guy, I'm a little shy but for some reason I tend to draw in the attention of promiscuous or "bad" girls. I know who and what they are before I meet them. They all fall in love with me once I open up with them. The relationships tend to move way to fast. They always say stuff like I'm the best person they've ever met, that I make them really happy, that I'm amazing in bed, and eventually say I love you... The sex is always fantastic and most of them love the fact that I'm a freak in bed like they are.
But then ALWAYS, they cheat on me about 4 months in, usually right after they say "I love you". And their excuse is always because they are afraid and they tend to push the people that they really care about away. All three "bad" girls that I've dated have had a plethora of emotional problems. Is it just impossible to date these girls till they solve their emotional problems first?
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My gut is you need to be more controlling. I also understand that you want to help them through their emotional problems not exploit them, and i'd be doing the same thing.
But I think you probably need to recognize that they're not actually in a healthy enough place to have a relationship where responsibility is 'even'. You need to be in charge, they need to meet your expectations for them, and then they get rewarded with approval. And they will sometimes start straying out of line and you need to come down hard (I do not mean physically). And they may bolt anyway.
Think of them in some ways (non pedophile ways...) as children who need a safe environment to feel cared for that also has clear rules and boundaries so they can feel safe too. Don't let them throw tantrums or get away with things, it actually makes them feel worse. They want to feel like you can handle all the shit they'd throw at you, because that's what makes them feel you can handle all the shit the world would throw at them.0