How am I meant to have a normal relationship that actually works out if I've been unwell most of my life. I'm trying to be something and make something of myself, but it is also hard when I'm still not 100% feeling that well. I have chronic fatigue and anxiety. They impact me a fair bit. My panic attacks I don't get often, but there are certain things that trigger my panic attacks. My health is what ruined my last relationship. I'm trying to change and make things better. I do recieve treatment for my anxiety and have for years. But How can I possibly ever have a normal relationship and find someone who is understanding? I feel like I'm going to be alone forever.
Not only that, I feel like I have to compete with other girls who are well more on the healthy side. They're better than me in looks, in everything. I try not to show to guys how I really feel about myself. And with today's online dating there is so many options for guys out there. So how is it possible to find someone under all these circumstances?
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From just a question on here it would be hard to know all of what is going on. So I can not address specific issues very well. I know people that are unable to have normal romantic relationships because of health/physical issues. Some will probably never have any romantic relationships. But believe me, their health issues are far worse than yours! I can see that you have problems that seem almost impossible to overcome, but I feel sure that you can go on to have a life with relationships that is very satisfying to you, even if they are not "perfect".
Let me tell you about dealing with your problems from my standpoint, which is not going to be the same as everyone's but many out there are like me. Assuming we were getting close, I could deal with a lot of things, as long as I know about them before being surprised by them, so if you are getting serious with a guy, let him know what could happen and make sure he understands what he can do to avoid triggering anything. Guys like myself are not perfect at overlooking everything and being totally understanding, but if we know what we are dealing with, we can do pretty well.
Why would a guy spend his time with such a "high maintenance" girl? Because we found other good things that we want to be with. Figure out what your interesting points are, what you are interested in, etc., then concentrate of showcasing them. Let your attractive features outshine the not so good ones.
Every girl, even the healthiest, prettiest, most self confident girls will find that there are other girls that have them beat. But they don't worry about them, just keep yourself as upbeat and interesting as you can.
There are probably support groups near you for people with your conditions. Investigate them. The people in them have found some of the answers and share them with each other, including where to find the guys who hold promise for you.1