Welp... I have officially given up on trying to answer this question because I don't know so maybe you can answer it for me.
What you need to know (and most of this list is something 1) I know for sure about myself or 2) that I've heard multiple times from friends/significant others/in-betweeners/family):
24. No kids. Educated.
I'm a hopeless romantic. I love love.
Stubborn at times (I wasn't going to omit my negative traits come on!)
Really easy to talk to (guys mostly said this but girls trailed behind)
Can relate to/befriend anyone
Focused on my goals
Willing to sacrifice for others
So why am I single? I'm pretty awesome i think lol just throwing it out there.
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Being a good leader, and being stubborn (which is simply a side effect of being a strong minded person)...
...doesn't attract men.
Frankly most men don't give a fuck about a woman being a strong minded leader when it comes to choosing a partner.
Most men want a feminine woman that will fall back and let him take his natural role as leader, as well as allowing herself to be vulnerable towards him.
As a fellow black person let me tell you...the "allowing herself to be recessive to the man" is an issue that many women in black culture have (don't want to give a lengthy history lesson here but u can understand why that is).
You seem to take some pride in your strong leadership skills...which are pointless to making yourself attractive to men.
The women that don't have a problem attracting and keeping men, are RECESSIVE and VULNERABLE to that guy, to make him feel like a man (as in the leader, the dominant one)...therefore he is comfortable in his role and stays long term.
There is no "fighting for the reins", per say; she curves back and TRUSTS the man to be the man, and she knows the relationship works best that way because his emotional need (Yes I said EMOTIONAL NEEDS ) are met.
Said women don't feel like their pride is hurting when they do is.
Don't become one of those overly independent types that REFUSES to BE RECESSIVE to the guy due to stubborness or being a control freak, and therefore repelling guys because their emotional and primal needs in a relationship are unfulfilled.
Wow I ranted a lot...Thanks for reading all this.
Hopefully I helped u some! :)1
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