GIRLS: Is SHE worried that I'M losing interest because I didn't text her for THREE DAYS, or is SHE losing interest?

[therealaccount21]

Things have been going great, seems like we both knew we were interested... Wednesday asked her to coffee. Thursday she started sending me kissy faces, Friday we hung out for a bit... I didn't text her from Friday - Monday, when she texted me first to wish me good luck on a presentation. Seemed a bit more reserved in person. Since I didn't text her since Thursday, might she be worrying that I'm not interested? Would YOU be?

[baddy2shoos]

Yeah, respond fast but keep the conversations short. This day and age many people want fast and convenient which shows interest, they don't want to wait around for a response or for a date setup it also shows disinterest. There's no excuse that you didn't respond even if you were busy because people are always, and I mean ALWAYS on there phone no matter what time of day or night. And especially if you are in college (I'm assuming because of the presentation) then your phone is your life. If you truly want a partner or relationship you will find the time to talk to her. This is important for girls. The slightest hint of disinterest and they will be gone. The slightest hint of TOO much interest and the will also be gone. That's why it's important to respond fast but keep conversations short. Then set up a date. It's a tough delicate balance for us men. The slightest tipping point, and she will lose interest. Good luck my friend. Your pal Baddy2shoos. Done.

[abbymairead]

very wise, my friend.

[Theguyoverthere]

You mighta both wanted to check the interest. You noticed you were always contacting so you wanted to see if she was willing to initiate. The thing is, texting gets confusing. This is honestly why I prefer to stick with phone calls at certain times with minimal texting (not saying not to text at all but you know what I mean).

I drop a lot of girls if I'm always texting first. I've been doing it for years. It's nice to know the girl I am interested in is thinking of me too. Plus I don't want to date someone who is "too scared" to send a text with that "fear of being clingy" crap. These types of girls are making their own road made of eggshells and tiptoeing constantly and I like girls who are much more chilled out and not "worrying over everything they say."

So all in all, I don't think she's losing interest. I think she's just another typical girl who is lacking in communication skills like many other people out there.

[moscotwin]

I would, honestly. Girls are usually REALLY... how do I say this... sensitive about texts. They try to put sense into what happens, like adding a tone of voice when they read a message. We tend to overthink things. She probably texted you the good luck thing to try to get a casual conversation starting (and reassure herself you're not ignoring her) and get you to talk to her again. She's most likely feeling like she was forgotten or you lost interest, and she could be more reserved now because she's feeling insecure about how you feel and why you didn't text her. Hope this helps :)

[abbymairead]

I would be, to be perfectly honest. Girls are (stereotypically) rather timid around boys. As for me, if a guy never responded to me for four days and we were supposed to be dating I would not feel secure in my relationship. Although it takes a lot of balls from the man of the relationship, step up and be the first to text her! It's likely she was more reserved in person because she had nothing else to think of other than the fact that you blew her off via text message.

[confuseddd123]

I would be! Hell that happened to me. He stopped texting me so i stopped texting him, that went on for 4 days. When we finally ran into each other i didn't talk to him because i don't think he's interested in me anymore. He talked to me a bit but something was different. I like a guy that text me everyday but not instant texting. Frequent sometimes, long time to respond other times.

[Anonymous]

I would back off thinking that's what u wanted. A text takes just a couple of secs you dont have to talk all day but a little something to show your interested

[CrazynKinky]

If you don't text me over 3 days especially a weekend all interest is lost cause clearly you aren't

[quietvixen17]

I would think that the guy isn't romantically interested.

[Anonymous]

If that were me, I'd assume the guy was losing interest, so in turn I'd back off because I'd think that's what he wanted.

[Danceislife17]

I think she was worried if you lost interest.

[LittleSally]

Yep. I'd move on...