I am so bitter over men because of how I've been treated in the past. And recently two guys I had an interest in have both stuffed me around. So I'm at my witts end. I almost have the feeling of not even wanting to be around any males what so ever. I am unhappy in general but I am so bitter over men it's not funny. And when I talk to one it comes out too, I bicker about how I feel and I try not too but it just comes out. Not only that I don't feel good enough. How can I ever meet a man if I always have this inner anger about men in general? I feel like I'll never let a man in again and I feel so frustrated. I'm sick of their mind games, I'm honestly led to believe they are all the same. And if their not then how am I meant to ever believe anything any of them say, with the mind set that I have?
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I can totally understand how you feel, I am going through the exact same thing with women and feeling the exact same way and it is showing to women to. It's like you are the women version of me. I also don't feel good enough. You have already taken the first and biggest step by admitting you have a problem. The truth is not all men are like this just like not all women are so both of us need to remember that. The thing is this mind set is only effects the person thinking it, people pick up on negativity and will keep their distance. I know exactly what it is like to have you mind played with and I am also starting to feel all women are the same but the thing is it is not true and we need to remember that. You need to try and change your mind set, I know it's hard and I am struggling to. Have a think to yourself where am I meeting guys? If it is places like night clubs and bars then that is partly your problem. Maybe you should have a break from men and focus on other things that are important to you, maybe have some counseling. Then when your ready try joining some sort of interest group. For example, say your interested in photography, you join a photography club or group. I am not saying you will deferentially meet someone but at least you will have an interest you both share as a conversation starter and the focus will not just be on sex like it is at a night club or bar. You never know you could meet someone you like, that treats you well.
Hope this helps :)1