So I'm very close with my family. I love them and when we almost lost my baby sister (19) last year I realized it even more.
I'm not obsessed with them and I'd plan for time with my girlfriend but major holidays etc are family time for me ( my girl would be very welcome). I'll go running or working out with my sis because she is my world and I love her but I make room for a girlfriend.
I'm just asking because my ex hated me being so close to them and she always antagonized my family and treated them badly in a way I had to end it with her.
Do you think there's a girl who would be willing to accept me?
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It depends on whether you still provide time and care to the girl. My ex--boyfriend was very close with his family as well - he would not even leave his sister at home alone (she was 16), so there were many times when we had to bring her together when we were out or we simply stayed at his place so he could "watch" his sister. Most of the times I would not mind about that because I would not want anything bad happened to a young girl as well, and his sister was not being all "possessive" of my ex-boyfriend. I was not really "friends" with his sister but we would talk and joke when we met. The one time I did have a problem with what he did for his sister was when he wanted to buy her something unnecessary while he didn't even have that money. He became upset and thought that I had a problem with him "being nice to his sister". That was the time I became very angry because I had been nice to his family (especially his sister) the whole time (I attended their family events, I spent holidays with them, I got them gifts on their birthdays and special occasions etc.) and he made me sounded like the worst person ever for this one thing and it wasn't even my fault. He did apologize afterwards saying he thought I didn't want him to be nice to his sister. I guess the main thing is that you need to make the girl feel appreciated and wanted even when your family is your priority, and that you are not going to just automatically side with your family when problems come out without even hearing her feelings and thoughts.
I would be fine with what you said you would do with your family. The only thing that I am not sure about would be that you said your sister is your world. That would be a bit too much for me because I have a sister and I love her so much too. I would not want anything bad to happen on her, but she would not be my "world". That might be a bit difficult for many girls to deal with because then she's always going to feel like the "third person".0