I met a guy online 2 months ago. We were friends first, which was perfect since I was going through a divorce. We had such a connection, and I began to look forward to talking to him every day. I was long distance for a few weeks, so he told me he'd wait for me to come back. He began calling me baby, and saying he couldn't wait to be mine, and for me to be his. I got caught up. We would talk for hours and texted daily. Then I told him that I felt guilty cause I hadn't let him know about my divorce and that I had kids.
He was shocked, but I told him I didn't expect to get so close to him so fast. It was crazy!
He told me the next day that he thought about it, and that he cared about me so much, and still wanted to date.
I was ecstatic.The first night we met, we got so caught up in finally seeing each other and it was magical. We had sex. He told me the next day that he couldnt stop thinking about me.
I met him again a couple days later, and it was possibly more magical. He would look into my eyes, and tell me how much I meant to him.
A couple days later, I went on a casual date with someone else, and this other guy kissed me. I immediately realized that there was only one guy I wanted to kiss. So I decided to ask about us. I must have worded it in the worst way possible, but I asked if he thought we were in a relationship. I was just curious, but not in any way trying to be pushy.
He finally replied and it was bad. He said he wasn't ready for a serious relationship, and mentioned an open relationship, and something about us being friends? I completely overreacted on the phone and cried and said that I guess we were over and that I don't know if I could just be friends. I know I overreacted, and I later texted and apologized. He did as well for freaking out. But now, I don't know if we can go back. Can I fix this? He hasn't texted me in a few days, should I give him time? Should I be the one to tell him I still want him? I don't want to push if he needs space.
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This is a situation where, if you both want to get by it, you'll figure it out. It sounds like there were mistakes on each side. Get together away from any bedrooms and just talk it through. It sounds like you're both pretty high communicators. It's important, from what I can tell, that you listen a LOT more than you talk. If he's as into you as it seems, he'll largely convince himself. Just be honest.1
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