So 3,000 characters won't even come close..so long story short. My sister-in-law's brother's ex g/f..kinda fell for me..and I fell for her. We've hung out the last 5 nights in a row. We get along GREAT. He think the same things, we laugh a lot, we've kissed and made out...even had sex the 3rd night. We've stayed out really late..like 4, 5, 6am a few nights in a row when we both had to work the next morning. She's a TOTAL sweetheart...I'm so in love with her. She really likes me but her thing is that she's afraid of what my family will think...and thinks getting with me will hurt her last ex bf. She's also been treated like sh*t and hurt a lot. She downs herself a lot too. None of these are excuses. I really believe she's telling the truth. She said she wants to slow down because this feels weird. She calls me, texts and we still spend time together. So yeah..I'm CRAZY about her..and here's why..I've been through a lot of sh*t and dealt with a lot of sh*t, so I can already tell she's incredible. She's a sweety, she does what she says like texts when she says, calls when she says, hangs out. She doesn't lie or bullsh*t...and a bonus she is drop dead gorgeous. So basically..I can tell..she's special. We had a long talk about her feelings and mine the other night..I basically said that I don't agree with her decision because he WILL get over it and move on...so why sacrifice your happiness for that? I told her if she needs help through whatever that I am more than there for her..with out question. I complimented her and told her my feelings. She is also so afraid of being hurt. I'm 25, she's 26 btw. So we're both pretty mature. She loves me company and I love hers. Anytime she's around me, still to this day she finds any reason to get close to me or even touch me. The other night after she said she wanted to slow down, we went to hug and she went to kiss me but I moved my head...I was like...do we kiss...or...no? She was like idk..maybe we should behave for now. We're keeping things really really quiet for now..and I told her I would keep it quiet for as long as she wanted to. I totally respect her feelings but I can't get her out of my head. She's the last thing I think of before I go to bed and the first thing I think of when I wake up. I am nuts for this girl and I WANT to be with her. My question is..is there really anything wrong with us dating even though he's my brother's wife's brother's ex? (holy crap lol) Btw...they've been broken up for about 2 months if not longer. I had nothing to do with the break up nor did I even hang out with her up until a week or so ago. He made the mistake and didn't want to be with her. She broke up with him, he threw her out and then that same day he friended her on facebook only to put up a status that said he was happy to be "free". So is it really a big deal if we dated?
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I personally don't think it's much of a big deal, because at least it's not like her ex boyfriend was your blood relative, right?
But it's only been like 2 or 3 months since the break up, so the ex boyfriend could get the wrong idea.
He could think that she's trying to make him jealous by "hooking up" with you, or he might think that you don't care about his feelings.
Unless he's an extremely nice, classy understanding person, he's bound to misunderstand.
He may not seem to care about her anymore, but there's a chance that he could get jealous, because after all, she USED TO BE his. He could also feel betrayed by you, and trust me, there's nothing uglier than the feeling of betrayal within a family.
This could turn out really well or reallyx5 bad. So, play it safe. Don't do anything risky, like telling your friends or family members about your relationship with her. I guess you can tell people that you trust 120%, but know that people slip up, no matter how careful or cautious they may be.
It might be hard to do, but I suggest that you guys keep it on the down low for a year, so that the ex won't feel **ANYTHING ** about this. And if he seems like he's negatively affected by you&his ex, sit down with him and TALK to him about it.0