I went on 5 great dates with a guy also from Tinder, and i met his friends and again it was amazing, nothing went wrong. At our last date which was a wow date he told me he likes me but he lives in another town and we met because he came to my town for conferences and he had back to back meetings here so we got to go on 5 dates, so he also said how it sucked that we dont get to spend much time together. Now he goes to university at the same time, and might come for school in my town after summer. But he also disappeared on me and i was insecure and thought i did something and i got needy. 2 weeks ago i managed to ask him why he was like this and he simple said that
he isn't looking for anything serious due to the fact that he is busy and doesn't have time for it. He also said there's just a lot going on right now. He wanted to remain friends and said he thinks im a cool girl. Yes i was broken and still sad cause we were perfect and had so much fun. He also said he had a great time at our date the day after, it was on Valentine's day.
So my point is that guys do disappear when things get serious in order to fully find out where they want this to go. Its only been 4 days so dont panick yet but dont sit and hope for it to go anywhere, it sucks but guys do this. Just do your own thing and do not DO NOT GET NEEDY.
Now any advice on what i can do with my "guy" :)?
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I could be wrong but:
- A lot of time when guys disappear its because of another girl. His time is now spent texting/calling her.
- I doubt he stopped texting you for absolutely no reason. Do u remember the last couple of convos u had with him? Maybe he dropped a few hints in there. I.E: I had a guy who started off really nonchalantly bringing up me being busy a lot. I brushed it off every time but it was a major issue for him (unbeknownst to me)
- in my opinion...4 days is too soon to conclude he's "disappeared". He could be busy or just need some space
-If the disappearing act becomes longer OR it becomes a repeated thing...I'd seriously forget this guy like amnesia & move on.
I had this happen to me too years ago. We weren't together tho' we were just dating. We texted litterly everyday then suddenly i didn't hear anything of him. The problem with me was i was stubborn.. I never texted him first or i was never the one who ask him out to do something it was always him. So he stopped texting me just to see how much i cared. Maybe this is the reason why?
Also if you really wanna know whats wrong just call him whatever but dont be too pushy call him and tell something funny about what you just witnesses/ doing, then add "so what are you doing? It's been a while i've heard something from you?" Just make sure you don't sound mad or dissapointed
I guess he is trying to give you both space, that you both wouldn't get annoyed to each other. Or he may be testing you out on how long can you be without him.
It really depends on he's personality.
Sometimes we need space, most girls ignore guys because guys don't give them enough attention. It's the opposite for guys. If a girl is annoying us we ignore them a bit
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This has happened to me several times, all guys I met online. Once, he told me he couldn't handle long distance relationships, even though we hadn't even gotten to the point of meeting so that he could see if that's what he wanted. The other two times, the guys just stopped responding and I noticed after a very short time that they were dating/in a relationship with someone else.
at least you met someone on tinder. i haven't met one girl , we met up once and then she never talked to me again.
He just doesn't want to tall to you because he thinks you are annoying
That's how life is... there's no breaking up anymore. there's the "fade away" lmao.
he stopped text you because he found out that he doesn't like you. it happened too and he liked the fact that you met other guy to move away from you
I bet his friend gave him crap about dating someone on tinder
Yea, not saying so much that you did anything wrong per se, but I guess he took the fact that you met up with his friend a little too personal.
girl i like, went missing for a year, without telling me what she was doing...girls do the same thing
He decided you weren't worth the effort. Either you made it too hard for him, or after taking a test drive he doesn't want what you're selling.
I do it because the girl becomes too needy or is just plain crazy.
Maybe he's jealous that you met with his friend? Could explain why he's "disappeared."
Have you texted him, though? Like you both might just be waiting for the other one to message...
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