Alcoholism: Easy to judge hard to get involved!

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Alcoholism - easy to judge hard to get involved


"Alcolholics". The word is used far too comfortably and regulary for anyone to ever get offended by it.. But me, I get offended by it. I live with an alcoholic everyday of my life, I've seen a human being shatter himself into a million pieces because of this addiction. The word alchoholic is not just a convinient way of labelling someone, but its an actual sickness. The dark, sad thing about this sickness is that it cannot be cured unless the victim of the sickness is prepared to get better, because you can't change someones ways - and i would know.


I've seen a woman desperately try save her children and her marriage, her money and her home by trying to save someone from themselves. But you can't change anyne unless they willing to change themselves, and you certainly cannot save one from oneself. Alcoholics have a tenancy of blaming other people for their misfortune, being their failures caused by the addiction. They live in the past, speak of the past and get angry from the past. They speak of losing people but dont look in front of them and see what they have, they speak of lost oppourtunites but they dont see all the opportunities in front of them that they are ruining and they speak of death but aren't seeing the life they still have.


Alcholism is to me directly related to depression and may be almost an after effect of depression and this is an issue that lots of people dont undertsand. When people are depressed some may overeat, some undereat, some cause self harm and some drink. I think there are a lot of people who are mildly depressed or suffer from depression, but when someone is an alcoholic its just a lot easier to see the symptoms and talk about.


When dealing directly with an alcoholic you realise how people are so uninterested to help and say ''Get out of the situation, divorce him, move out''. When I was younger I thought it was that easy, you may think its that easy but its not. They are desperate rememeber? They may be strong and angry, rememeber? They can find you and hurt you, remeber? But you were busy at home, relaxing while we were running. no one is prepared to get actively involved and help. Its all very well to hand out money and send messages of support, but you werent there to help and make sure we were safe, were you? I hate the alcoholic I live with, i have to watch him everyday ruin his life and drag us along with him. I feel sorry for him and i wish i didn't but i do. Its hardhearing about someone ruining their life, but living it through with someone - can you imagine that?


People are so quick to judge not only the alcoholics, but also the families. You wouldn't judge someone who was sick in hospital, so dont judge someone whos an alcoholic, because more times then not they are crying themselves to sleep wishing they werent as messed up as they are. Support rather than lable, dont conform to idiotic hurtful converatsions, be strong and make a difference.

Alcoholism: Easy to judge hard to get involved!
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