Cutting Off A Toxic Friend

SweetHomicidalQueen





Cutting Off A Toxic Friend


I have a friend of four years, whom I met online. Throughout those four years we've fought and gone days, months without talking but we've always been friends. Since he met me, he's always said he's "in love" with me, that no woman loves him, he'll never find love etc. Well I've never told him I had feelings for him. In fact, I told him I would only date him if my feelings for him were different. We've started talking again after a year of having no way to contact him.




He's been calling me babe/baby/baby girl and although I don't mind being called "babe" in a friendly way, I told him not to. I explained to him, it makes me uncomfortable, I don't like it. He believes since we've been friends for so long that I owe him it. He gets mad at me whenever I tell him I do not want to date him, I have zero attraction in him. I've told him I'm not attracted to him.



Cutting Off A Toxic Friend


He doesn't understand "no" and "I am not interested." He believes that since he's been such a "good friend" for so long that my feelings will change and he'll have a chance with me. I've explained many times that's not how it works. Well yesterday he was supposed to come down and meet me for the first time. He said he'd be here by 3:30, then he said he needs to talk to his dad before he leaves.



Then he doesn't answer till this morning. He said how he deserves better than this, that I owe him, all that jazz. He always makes me feel as if it's my fault. Well this is the last straw. He's always been like this so I'm done. I've decided to cut him off, He's toxic and if I don't get rid of him then hell continue to make me feel like shit every time I tell him no. I don't owe him anything, and I'm not going to deal with a friend that does not respect me or my boundaries.


Cutting Off A Toxic Friend



Recently, I've been ignoring any messages from him, but when he messaged me for the 12th time, I asked him what he wanted. He said "A conversation. To not be ignored."



(The message above it is just him telling me I owe him cause we've been friends for so long, that he's done with me etc.)
After he read that long paragraph he said "Fine....I guess I'll go do things I know I'll regret."
He was trying to guilt trip me so I just shook my head and blocked him from everything.



Cutting Off A Toxic Friend

Cutting Off A Toxic Friend

Cutting Off A Toxic Friend

Now, some may say I might have been a bit too harsh, or that I over reacted. I don't think so. After years of me telling him I won't date him, that I don't want to, that I don't want him to call me any pet names etc. I have had enough.



Now just a friendly reminder to everyone [especially girls my age]: if you have a toxic friend such as this, PLEASE cut them off. You'll feel bad at first but you'll end up feeling 100x better. I know he'll be fine because he has many other girls he does the same shit too, it wasn't just me.


Cutting Off A Toxic Friend



Cutting people out of your life doesn't mean you hate them, it simply means you respect yourself. Not everyone is meant to stay.










Cutting Off A Toxic Friend
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