Dear Grandma,
I'm writing this because as your granddaughter, there are some things I don't and can't understand. Your childhood is unknown to me. How you grew up and what you were taught, is something I know nothing about. Maybe that's what contributes to your behavior towards people, especially your family.
What you went through in your life and what challenges you faced in life, are also unknown to me but maybe that's also a factor in why you act the way you do. We could chalk it up to old age, you are 87 after all but the fact that you've always been this way to people, means we can't use that as an excuse. Maybe old age just makes it worse, but that isn't the reason you treat your family who loves and dotes on you, so poorly.
My dad is your son and you treat him so badly, despite the fact he'd drop what he was doing just to help you with whatever you needed (even when you are mean to him). You know why? Because you're his mother and he's not going to abandon you or treat you poorly because that's not in my dad's nature.
Even still, you still say he's a liar and trying to con you or he's after your money, when he's not. You give your money to your oldest daughter for a condo up grade in Mexico (even though she didn't want one), $15,000 for that. You just gave another $500 to my cousin (your grandsons) girlfriend, for a new car but my parents are on disability and have been there for you all their life, you can't even offer them $50 to get some basic groceries whithout expecting them to pay you back. Tell me how that is fair or right?
My mom is your daughter-in-law and for the most part you've always gotten along, until something changed. Until we all went to your condo in FL and we came back and you went to my mom's bank where she worked as a teller and told everybody it was the "worst vacation of your life and my mom was lazy and did nothing". You don't see how that was wrong to do? Especially since, it wasn't true. There's a lot of lazy people in the world but I can tell you my mom isn't one of them. My mom is a hard worker and a neat freak, even now.
So, that couldn't be more inaccurate if you tried, neither could your statement that my mom is a drug addict. My mom is on pain medicines for her headaches, neck and back problems, not for leisurely purposes. So, you don't know what you are talking about it's extremely offensive to hear you think of my mother that way!
You know what else is offesive? You claiming my parents are bad parents, when they are definitely not! They are the best parents! Just because they didn't send me back to St. Judes for the 5th grade, doesn not make them bad parents. Every thing you endure in your life helps you be the person you'll be in the future, so if I have no regrets and don't care about it, than neither should you!
I'm your grandaughter and all you've done is underestimate me. You'd comment about me being shy and making it seem like no one in the family liked me, but what you said they said about me isn't even true. You always pitted me and my younger cousin against each other, which is wrong!
You know what else is wrong? To call one of your other granddaughters fat to her face, can you not see how wrong that is? Calling any of your children or grandchildren names or talking about them is wrong!
You are my grandma, so I will always love you but I don't have to like you or like what you do. I don't understand it and never will, it's just wrong to me. I'm writing this because it needs to be said but you will never see this letter because if I sent it to you, it would just cause trouble and there's already enough family drama. Too bad I can't show this to you but I'm just glad to have gotten all this out.
I really wish I knew why you act this way but I guess it will remain a family mystery.
Sincerely,
Your Very Confused Granddaughter
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