Parents, Please Refrain From Doing These Two Things To Your Children

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1. Comparisons

Parents, Please Refrain From Doing These Two Things To Your Children

It makes children think,

"Am I not good enough?"

For the children's point of view, this is done for de-motivational purposes since this signifies that parents consider people that are much more desirable to them.

I honestly think some parents compare their own children with other children because they think the act of comparison would get their children inspired and motivated.

This is when parenting is done wrongly because I believe that a random child's manifestations do not and should not be the basis of one's own child's development in good manners and right conduct.

Doing so will hamper children's point of view towards themselves and it will stimulate feelings of either inferiority or superiority. Both are not desirable, I am telling you.

Parents, please never compare your children with other children in any way, especially terms of prowess such as grades in school and physical attributes such as weight, color, height, and gender. They're all unique so you should love them just the way they are. 😊

2. Dictating career plans for the future

Parents, Please Refrain From Doing These Two Things To Your Children

Dictating career plans for the future is prevalent in my country, the Philippines. Parents here want their children to take up courses that guarantee a job (duh, like they enrolled their kids for automatic employment) 😑

This is why I am somewhat saddened to see most of my peers taking up STEM and ABM courses against their will to satisfy the standards of their parents and for their parents not to ground them.

In this regard, I am glad that I followed my heart in taking up HUMSS instead of ABM. I am also fortunate that my parents have understood my decision for this action.

Now, for my cents:

I honestly think that dreaming for children's future is not bad.

However, dictating is wrongly done parenting. The harm kicks in when one requires his/her children to fulfill what he/she wants instead of letting children decide and reflect about their purpose in life.

For the children's point of view, this feels like his/her dreams are crushed in order to accommodate the desires of the external forces (pressure).

Doing so will extremely change the way a child views things.

Parents, please confer this matter with your children and realize that it is his/her life at sake here as well as his/her dreams. Simply guide them towards achieving their goals and do not demotivate them nor coerce them to do as you wish.

Parents, Please Refrain From Doing These Two Things To Your Children
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