Things I Look Forward to About Being a Husband and Father

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Things I Look Forward to About Being a Husband and Father

The love of husband and wife is the force that welds society together. Men will take up arms and even sacrifice their lives for the sake of this love. There is no influence more powerful than the bond of love, especially for husband and wife. ~ St. John Chrysostom, 4th century, (Homily on Marriage).

For as long as I could remember, my dream has always been to be a loving husband and father. With a beautiful, nurturing wife who has the body of a Victoria's Secret angel and two little daughters to love and cherish with all of my heart, my dream has been to have my own family. To be just like my father (except in the many ways I do not like) and make my mother proud. To be sovereign over my own household and fulfill my Divinely sanctioned role as a man. If I could just accomplish this - if I could just have a family at the end of it all, then everything will have been worth it. My heart will be at peace, and I could die a happy man knowing that my dream came true, and I got what I wanted out of life. The fact that I graduated high school as valedictorian and student of the year, the 4.0 GPA in college, my aspiration to be a justice on the Supreme Court like Antonin Scalia - it is all secondary at best. Vanity, in the words of King Solomon. As far as I am concerned, nothing else matters more than my dream to have a family. Earthly ambition does not concern me. I will not redefine who I am nor will I buy into the 'progressive' delusion of modernity that riches, fame, and success are all one needs to be happy. In order to truly be happy, I need a wife and children. I need my own family.

Below are some of the things I look forward to about someday having my own family.

Working like a Slave to Support Them

Things I Look Forward to About Being a Husband and Father

From private schooling to designer clothing and a roof over their heads, I want for my children - preferably daughters but also sons as well - to have the best. I want to give my children the world, particularly the last item on the list: a house. Growing up, my family never purchased a house until I was well into my young adulthood. We were always renting, staying with family, and moving from year to year which always took a huge toll on us. This was perhaps the de facto worst thing about my childhood. Needless to say, I want to do better for my family. I want for them to have a home. I want to surprise my wife with expensive jewelry, fancy household appliances, and sexy lingerie for my own amusement. I do not want for my family to ever feel like we are poor or lack money.

And I am willing to do what it takes.

If it means working 16 hour shifts a day, holding down multiple jobs, or actually making my dream come true to be a justice on the Supreme Court so that I can afford to provide for them, then so be it. I am a Republican. I believe in hard work. I believe in the American Dream. I believe that a man conquer the world by the sweat of his brow and pulling of his own bootstraps. And I will succeed, because in my heart I will love and cherish my family more than anything.

Being an Actual Father to my Children

Things I Look Forward to About Being a Husband and Father

On top of the previous item on my list, another aspect of having a family that I look forward to is being an actual father to my children. For far too long, men have had the idea that being a father merely means working and earning the money. But I know that fatherhood means a lot more than that. So on top of working like a slave to support my family, I want to be an actual father to my children. From being there every step of the way in the delivery room to changing diapers, having tea parties, and not shying away from the extremely awkward but necessary talks about sex, morality, and crazy teenage girl emotions, I look forward to being everything that a good father should be. I will even help with the housework, cook Mexican meals since my wife will be White, and drive my children around to all of their stupid activities from ballet to softball and competitive shooting.

I will remain 100% devoted to my children,

Even if it means living off of 2 hours of sleep a night and drinking coffee until my piss is brown, I will succeed. Nothing in life worth having ever comes easily. Pain is temporary but pride is forever and all of that, so likewise I will endure the demands, toils, and struggles of fatherhood. Hard work has never scared me. And for it will be a labour of love because I will love my children with all of my heart, and take delight in being completely devoted, putting my needs absolutely last.

Having an Insane Amount of Sex with my Wife

Things I Look Forward to About Being a Husband and Father

From the night of our wedding to the day one of us dies, sex is a huge part of marriage to me and something I very much look forward to. I want to have sex with my wife every single day and multiple times per day, constantly finding new ways to spice up our love life. We will attempt every position in the book, indulge in all of our fetishes, and even record ourselves to cherish the moment. I will surprise my wife with sexy lingerie, take her on romantic weekend getaways, and even pay for her to learn pole dancing for my arousal. Yes, there is a very good chance I will actually install a stripper pole in our master bedroom at the foot of our bed, so that the love of my life can put on for me the greatest show on Earth. Just the very thought of having my own wife - my own woman's body to enjoy to my heart's content - sounds like the most amazing thing imaginable.

So please excuse me for being so frank,

But I cannot wait to have an insane amount of sex with my wife. Once those two children are born - again, whom I pray will be daughters - I am getting a vasectomy so that my wife and I can have as much carefree sex as our dirty little hearts desire. I am the type of man who will always be trying to see my wife naked, always sneaking into the shower with her, always trying to get her into bed. From convincing her to sleep buck naked to surprising her with sex whenever she is out in the yard sunbathing in her tiny thong bikini, I will never keep my hands off of the love of my life. She will be the only woman for me, and I will always desire her just as much as I did on the wedding night.

Let's just say that our children will be taught to knock very early on in life.

Raising my Children in the Orthodox Church

Things I Look Forward to About Being a Husband and Father

Preferably the Russian jurisdiction since they are the most conservative and not the Greeks since they are too damn liberal - Bartholomew is not my Patriarch - but my children will be raised in the Eastern Orthodox Church since I am a very religious man, and I look forward to practicing my religion with my family. My children will be baptized into the Church as soon as they are a few weeks old and will be named after their patron saints. If I have two daughters - which is what I hope for - the first will be named Monica Basil after Ss. Monica and Basil the Great, while the second will be named Jennie Marie, after my mother whom I practically worship and St. Mary of Egypt. If I have two sons, then the first will be named Gregory Augustine after Ss. Gregory the Theologian and Augustine of Hippo, while the second will be named Isaac Athanasius after Ss. Isaac the Syrian and Athanasius the Great.

Yes, I have an obsessive compulsive infatuation with the Church Fathers.

But the point is, as a husband and father, I will delight in practicing my religion alongside my family and doing the very best I can to set the example for them. From learning to recite entire Akathists as lullabies for my precious babies to marrying my wife within the Joy of All Who Sorrow above, the holiest Orthodox Church in all of North America, I want to be a good godly man who imparts a genuine faith within my children. I was not fortunate enough to be raised within the Orthodox Church - I had to convert - but my children will be blessed enough to inherit it, to be born within the faith. This is something I will make sure they have, perhaps the most important treasure I can give them.

Showing Off my Family to the World

Things I Look Forward to About Being a Husband and Father

Excuse me for being a little bit starstruck, but nothing was more glorious to me than that moment on November 8th when a victorious Donald Trump stepped onto the stage to address the nation with his beautiful family in tow. Such class and glamour - such a beautiful, loving family. Is there anything more a man can ask for? When I grow up and become a man, I cannot wait to show off my family to the world. The reason being that my family will be the most important thing in my life - the object of my deepest love and devotion. There is nothing I will take more pride in than my family. From my beautiful White wife whose livelihood will be Nordstrom and Sephora to my adorable little teenage daughters and/or ambitious, successful sons, my family will be my ultimate accomplishment.

I long to show them off to the world, because they are my greatest accomplishment.

I am a very traditional man. We Hispanics are like that. We value family, God, and tradition more than anything else. Being the firstborn of the family also does that to you, as I can attest to as the oldest of my family. So as a firstborn Hispanic, I will take a lot of pride in my family. They are my ultimate measure of success. We will be successful, aristocratic Hispanic Republicans. Except for my wife - she will be as White as snow, since I adore blonde White women. We will be like the Malfoys, but more down to Earth since I actually care about the poor, sick, and suffering.

Loving my Wife with All of my Heart

Things I Look Forward to About Being a Husband and Father

One thing that always bothered me about my father and does so especially now is that he never realizes just how fucking good he has it with my mother. She is, quite literally, the perfect wife and sort of woman that men like me dream about. Not only has she always loved him and remained devoted even during the darkest, most difficult of times, but she bore him three children and still, quite literally, possesses the beauty of a supermodel. My father is lucky on the level of Divine intervention - the miracle that neckbeards dream about - and yet he still has the audacity to complain.

I will not make the same mistake as my father,

Not a day will go by when I will not realize just how truly blessed I am to have my wife - a beautiful woman like Marisa Miller above who loves her children - and cherish her from the bottom of my heart. From wiping her tears to paying genuine attention to her emotions and never letting her forget just how much I love her, I will do all I can to be a good husband. I will love my wife with all of my heart. I will listen, console, and honor. I will respect, cherish, and adore. I will stand by and take her side in all affairs, and I will support her endeavors however ambitious they may be.

Things I Look Forward to About Being a Husband and Father

When she is sick, I will nurse her back to health. When she is in anguish, I will wipe her tears. And when she is angry, I will listen attentively. In that same marriage homily above, St. John Chrysostom also instructs husbands to love their wives "even if it becomes necessary for you [them] to give your life for her, yes, and even to endure and undergo suffering of any kind." More than that, this applies "even if you see her [your wife] belittling you, or despising and mocking you. [For] still, you will be able to subject her to yourself through affection, kindness, and your great regard for her."

I will be a male St. Monica,

I will love my wife with all of my heart, and always remain kind and affectionate even when she is angry at me. Even if she hates me for no reason and cheats on me. I always remain devoted, and never leave her, give up, or allow my love for her to cease. I am an extremely self-emptying person, so there is nothing I would take more delight in than loving my wife with all of my heart and doing whatever I can do to please her. I want to be the greatest husband in the whole wide world.

In Conclusion,

These are some of the things I look forward to the most when it comes to someday having a family and being a man. Needless to say, there are many, many more things to look forward to, from the hardships to the blessings, and I cannot wait until the day that my dream becomes a reality. These are just some of the things that I look forward to about marriage and fatherhood. But in the end, I look forward to all aspects of family life, even the difficulties, and am ready to face them.

Things I Look Forward to About Being a Husband and Father
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