Losing my best friend was a terrible thing, and I'm still in the throes of pain. But amidst the struggle and tears, there is a lesson to be found for us all. Whether male or female, we all suffer pain and hurt at some point in our lives. The best cure for this isn't medicine or doctors. It's your best friend. That one person who will never abandon you, is always able to make you smile in the downpour of rain, the one you can tell all your nasties to and know that they'll keep it to themselves. That's who Krystal was for me. She was my best friend.
This all ended at 5:23 PM, January 27, 2015.
Why did I put such a specific date? because this date will forever be implanted in my memory as the day my world crumbled and my closest friend turned her back on me.
In the weeks leading up to our fallout, Krystal had been hanging around a lot of tasteless characters. People that wanted to be thugs and the top dog. They smoked pot, did crack, shoplifted, and generally up to no good 95% of the time. Krystal met these guys through a friend of hers, and gradually became enamored by them. I tried to keep her away from them to no avail. Little by little, she changed from the happy-go-lucky and cheerfully ditzy girl I loved to a pot smoking, trash-talking party animal. She began to treat me poorly, ignoring me, insulting me, etc. I don't know whether she realized how much she was hurting me.
Distraught, I attempted to talk to her, and she refused to listen. Eventually, I finally got her to sit and listen to what I said. I told her that the group she was hanging around was not good for her, that they were changing her into someone she wasn't. She exploded at me. One thing led to another and we had a violent row (verbally), ending with her cutting me out of her life.
I have been deeply scarred by this. I cried and cried for many hours. I attempted to contact her, make things right, but she would not come back. She had chosen her new group over her best friend.
These events have left a scar on my heart, but also a lesson for me - and by extent, you guys. Always value your friendships. Hold them closer to you than your boyfriend or girlfriend. You can always replace a date, but you can never mend the chasm created by the loss of your closest and most personal friend.
I made the mistake of allowing my best friend to become corrupted. Don't do as I did. Hopefully, the Krystal I love will come back. If she does, I will greet her with open arms. Until then, I will use the lessons I learned from my experience to help others. This is one of the hardest things I have ever had to endure, but I have come out wiser for it. I hope you do, too.
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