Frenemies. The ultimate soul vampires.

[Starfishlover]

I have had friends where they stole my boyfriends and backstabbed me behind my back. I have just become the bigger woman, smiled and said "bless your heart" while patting them on the back. Then walked away into the sunset.

Yes, I have had many frenemies that have called me out and embarrassed me many times.

So please share your stories about the worst thing your friend or maybe even a family member has ever done for you. I thought this would be a great forum for you to vent your spleen.

I learned to be the bigger person, not react and just break it off with them as this type of relationship will only end up with your soul being weak.

You have to know that it is not you and that there is nothing wrong with you. It is just that some people don't have the normal upbringing that you and I probably had and you should actually feel sorry for them.

If you have been the person that caused others pain, you should probably apologise to your friend about them, as he or she has done nothing to you, then grow up.

So be as fabulous as possible, pat them on the back, say "bless your heart" and walk off into the sunset.

[rihannanavy]

a girl and I had the same lunch. it was only a few of us and if we could sit with any other people we would. we share a mutual friend. she used my name and text a boy who sometimes ate lunch with us. she text him and ask if he liked the girl. he said no. came Monday.. he asked me and i had no idea. the girl just laughed if off like it was nothing. this year i shared with another aquaintance that the girl had talked about her friend. i belived the aquaintance wouldn't tell her friend because sh told me she liked her friends boyfriend. she told her friend and started a mess. now today its awkward and we fake liking each other so our group stays together. she brings the attention to herself because she knows I won't interrupt and won't make a scene... people say im too nice and said i let her run me.

[Prof_Don]

Frenemies are so awful. I don't feed the drama so any aquaintances that choose to become my frenemy, end up getting bored because I don't feed the drama.

I had a few frenemies in college. Mainly guys who, for some reason, chose me, to compete with for women at parties and shit. They would try to cock block me out of jealousy. :-P

[kambo_trick3y]

Never had a frenemy.

It takes years to become my friend and lots and lots of effort and sacrifice to prove yourself to me (which I give in equal return as payment). Only then will I call you a friend and give you my trust.

I've never been backstabbed using this method.

[Levin]

as I asked kiribear not long ago, what are you afraid of?

[kambo_trick3y]

@Levin

Not afraid. I just don't see the point of giving my time and effort and sacrifice to people who do not warrant it, who don't earn it. More than money, more than ANYTHING, my TRUST is my most valuable resource, given only to people who are worthy of it. And I don't give it to low quality people, I give it to high quality people.

I work hard for people's trust, I ride or die for them and I sacrifice for them, I expect equivalent return. THIS is how you prove real people from fake ones.

[Levin]

and my original question?

[kambo_trick3y]

@Levin

Ah I see, I thought you were asking that question like "What you afraid of for you to have all those high standards in friends for?" kind of deal.

What am I afraid of? Hm... probably dying without ever realizing my potential is probably my biggest fear.

[mutedaisy]

I just don't attract those kind of people, so it hasn't happened, yet.

[abundantlyrich]

I don't have a frenemy. Girls are not really the type to be my friends.

[YourFutureEx]

Frenemies? Great thing to read :-)

[HelloDur]

O. o why even have them?

[Starfishlover]

I dumped them