Incest? anybody got a time machine?

[Anonymous]

so obviously i can't go into much detail about this but basically no penetration and it was... my own brother
i was less than 10 years old and so was he but he was too curious about the female body, but like i said no penetration

i didn't fully understand at the time what was going on at the time, but i knew it was wrong.

my question is, how does incest (or something close to it) affect you later on in life? (im still a virgin btw, i mean how does it affect you psychologically, socially... etc)
and can the damage (if any) be reversed?

im repulsed by it, but i dont feel like its affecting me right now... actually I don't know how i feel at all..

and no im not that catfish, thats why i didn't go into details, i just want some answers because i dont have anyone to talk to about this and i can't go to a psychologist. thank you

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+1 y

so its ok? good lol its such a relief to hear your opinions guys, this has been bottled up or a while now lol but i feel much better
and i wasn't going crazy ove it or anything and i wasn't sure if i should... i was just confused

thanks for all your answers

[FullMarriageEquality]

How old were you? Most therapists don't consider it a problem or abusive if there was no coercion or intimidation and there was four years or less of age difference. That's considered exploration and experimentation, and it is common enough that I guarantee you know other people who've been involved.

As long as it wasn't forced, the ONLY negative effects I've ever heard (and I've heard from literally hundreds of people who've been involved with a sibling) was if they got caught and the people catching them made a big negative deal about it. Otherwise, everyone gets along normally.

This kind of thing is, like I said, common. Not as common but still common enough that you know someone involved is a full-blown (no pun intended) sexual or romantic relationship between siblings. I have interview dozens of people in such relationships, and they are often successful, attractive, happy, people.

[Asker]

i can't remember exactly but less than 10 years old and there's a year age difference between us
and no wasn't forced or anything lol

you sound like a counselor or something lol are you?

and honestly its such a huge reliefe lol it wasn't really affecting me and i thought maybe that was bad and it should lol im glad it really is nothing

[FullMarriageEquality]

With your clarifications, I can confidently say you did nothing wrong and there is nothing to have negative feelings about.

I am NOT a licensed counselor, just someone who has dealt with these topics a lot and have done a lot of reading up as well as interviewing people who are in ongoing relationships.

[ilovesexyfeet]

This was 2 kids messing around with curiosity so don't let it affect u in any way it wasn't wrong because u didn't understand it back then so laugh about it and move on. Don't let something that happened when u were 10 affect your whole life

[Asker]

kinda relief to hear that lol
i wasn't feeling affected by it... weirded out but yea idont feel like its affecting my life and was wondering if it was normal lol

thanks lol good to hear it was

[ilovesexyfeet]

Good I'm glad your not letting it affect u just forget it because its something that lots of people unknowingly done as a child :-)

[Anonymous]

i've also done this kind to my brother before. we were below 10 if i could remember. we never talked about it again. presently, it does not affect me, us, at all. good thing.

[Asker]

im the exact same !

[Asker]

so it counts as curiosity not incest right? i also dont feel like its affecting me lol

[Opinion Owner]

yeah, curiosity probably, girl. it would be called incest if you had sex at your age now.

[Anonymous]

I kissed my little cousin once when I was a kid, I have no idea what drove me to do it... I'm the only one that remembers though.

[Tunakid]

Well for one you were really young and probably wasn't very aware what you two were doing. If it does ever bother you a lot psychologically the pnly advice Id give is to see a psychologist. But you need to understand that you were young and there was no penetration so I wouldn't make it out to be a big deal, aslong as it doesn't get worse in your mind anyways.

[Asker]

yea deep down i dont feel like it was a big deal... i feel.. weird, about it
but yea i dont feel assaulted or w/e, so i was wondering if it was normal

my brother is not the type either, he was a little by who was curious and he was just recentyl before that introduced to p*rn lol

[Tunakid]

It may bother you a bit and I understand that but dont let it get to the point where you're going crazy about it, you were 10, most likely not very aware and if you do feel really disturbed about it at a point in your life talk to a psychologist about it. Also know this: this isn't a rare thing to happen, young kids do experiment with things often, even incest.

[Asker]

it isn't rare? really? oh good lol

such a relief honestly lol thanks im glad i shared it here and got these answers

[Tunakid]

Ya no problem :).

[Insaan]

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[Asker]

okie :3

[Anonymous]

Unfortunately men can smell incest on a woman a mile away. Looks like you're going to be alone for life.

[222fallguy2]

I don't get these answers. You are the same person that lashes out to everyone right? What pleasure do you get from this?

[Asker]

lmao that doesn't even make sense on ANY level

and @222fallguy2 i guess killing time or dealing with personal issues wrongly lol

[Opinion Owner]

Killing time. @222fallguy2 lighten up, you are taking the internet too seriously

[222fallguy2]

This one user is trying to make anon a thing of the past with a multiple account I think. He posts as much hate as he can so others think anons are all pricks. I can't think of any other reason.

[Opinion Owner]

You give me too much credit, I'm flattered.

[222fallguy2]

Being a piece of shit to people is your way of killing time?

[Asker]

stop arguing :(

[Opinion Owner]

Sometimes. Perhaps you would have laughed at the original post if I had included an emoticon.

Also certain there are plenty of others who do the same, not enough of me or time to account for all internet "hate." @222fallguy2

[chadsten]

¯\_(ツ)_/¯ C'est la vie

[Asker]

that face is cute!

[chadsten]

ヾ (＾-＾) ノ

[Anonymous]

Did he just finger you?

[Hairless2]

I will