Why am I always so mean to my younger brother?

[Anonymous]

So here I am to get responses as to why, and for you guys to critisize me so I can get my head straight.

My brother is 4 years younger than me, and I really do love him. But I don't show him that I love him. Instead, I would yell at him for doing stupid things, and sometimes when I'm at my worst mood I would critisize him and call him stupid.

I would say "Why are you always so clumsy and stupid and useless" and that is the rudest shit ever. I end up feeling horrible at times but I can't take back the damage I dealt. I just want to stop the bullshit I've been giving him even though he just wants to impress his older sister.
I really do love him though, and whenever other older kids in the neighborhood bully him, I would go and protect him. Some of those 'kids' are older than me, but if I had to, I would go beat them up for the sake of my brother, so they understand that if they mess with my brother, they are messing with ME.
Even though I am quite strict on him sometimes, most of the time the way I act is because of my aggressiveness.

How can I stop and be a proper sister?

[JustinCaseUDontKnow]

Your at the age hormones play a part in your body , your more likely to have
irritability cause your teen growing up and you don't mean to have it
when you go through your teen years it's hell to do it for sure cause
your under pressure from all people your age, little older than you too
you got peer pressure from going to school from other people and
you got pressure from parents, you are easily to annoy , upset , get mad
you don't mean none of this but this is part of life so you take your stuff
out on your little brother cause you love him the most this is so common.
How to stop and be a proper sister? Try doing activity's with your brother
even if it's gaming , taking walks, spend time talking to him about what
upsets you / gets you mad about him, talking your problems over with
your brother concerning him is more better than anything else also
you may need a third party person to be there with you two so they can
be your support mentor maybe a older close friend, older close relative
not necessary your parents , when he says something to disagree walk
away , take walk outside up the street, sit outside in front the house or
sit on the porch or go to your bedroom, go to another room of the house
feeding into something that makes you upset/ mad about him will make
you feel twice as bad you know got keep saying i can be a better.

[JustinCaseUDontKnow]

Thank you for most helpful opinion:-)

[Asker]

Thank you so much :)
This is definitely advice that would stick with me throughout the rest of my teenage years.

[JustinCaseUDontKnow]

You're welcome :)
Glad to be able to help you
i hope things work out good
for you :-)

[AleDeEurope]

You should stop that as soon as possible, control yourself. Your brother probably looks up to you, he has you in high esteem, so if you treat him bad it can mess up with his mind, he may think he's shit because if his sister treats him like that, and doesn't like him, who else is gonna like him?
For what I read you criticize him but never show him love. Protecting him from bullies is not the same as a hug or a kiss in the cheek.
I have an older sister, 3 years older, and when I was younger I admired her l, she was the one who I had a stronger connection with. Every time she said something insulting or to hurt me, I felt awful.
Control your emotions, because it's hurting him more than you know.

[Asker]

Thank you so very much!
It's true that my brother has a stronger connection with my than my parents.
Thank you once again

[AleDeEurope]

You're welcome!
Always be there for your brother. I used to hate my sister, but now I wouldn't trade her for anything, she's the person I love most in my life, and I know she feels the same towards me. It's worth the struggle, believe me.
Good luck :)

[GirlPower2014]

Start doing stuff with him, start at the house then go out and do stuff. Like take him for ice cream for example. Share secretes with him.

[Asker]

Thank you

[Sexualchrist]

Just be nice to him. It's simple, don't let your emotions get the better of you all the time.
Exercise a bit of self control. When you see him being an idiot, don't yell and flip out but just give calm, constructive criticism.
You're not in a war so there's no need to order him around like a drill sergeant. You do have time to explain the reasons why you believe his particular actions are flawed. Everything is for you to decide yourself. Remember that.

[Asker]

Thank you for your asnwer ! :)

[heavensgift2girls]

Maybe you are taking your stress out on the only person weaker than you. If you have no other outlet for your issues this could cause you to mistreat him. You could try identifying your issues and finding better ways to deal with them.

[Asker]

Thank you sir

[Anonymous]

Counseling.