Hello, I have a tricky situation... I have dated an amazing women that I love and when I met her I knew she smoked weed. I never had an issue with it. I don't smoke or do drugs at all. I am a clean guy. I thought it would not bother me if she does it but when I first saw her doing it it broke my... Show More
Girlfriend smokes weed behind my back I think. Help please
What Girls Said
Well, first of all, if you love her, then you should have no reason not to trust her (assuming she's been faithful and all). So if she says she is going to quit, you *should* trust her and not just assume that every time she goes out with her friends that she is smoking! Also, what if she comes home smelling like smoke? That doesn't necessarily mean that she has been smoking, especially if she's been with her friends who do.
Keep in mind that there is a lot of pressure (social and peer) involved in things like this. Many people tend to grossly underestimate the amount and effect that social influence has on how people live and think! If your women has lived this kind of lifestyle for a while, the process of quitting isn't gonna happen overnight! It could take weeks or months.
If she is really willing to quit because she loves you, then you should give her your full support, trust, and love! It might be a hard thing for her to do, and she might slip-up, but of course, she's only human, like you and I. I think if she really does genuinely want to quit, that speaks volumes about her love for you!
What Guys Said
Wait, do you drink alcohol?