Boyfriends father is always making sexual comments?

[Anonymous]

Been with my boyfriend for about 6 years now. His father is overly sexual with everyone and always making weird comments. However, since my birthday 2 years ago it has gotten quite a bit more frequent. I arrived at my boyfriends parents house, as they were throwing me a party, and his dad chased me down and pinned me down to give me "birthday spankings". Since that point he has been rough wrestling or kicking me in the butt/slapping my ass with a towel/etc.
It isn't something I thought too much of before because as I said, he's like this with everyone. However, he's starting to make comments when no one is around. For instance, today he came up and was smacking me around or whatever (which is normal) and I told him to stop being so rough because he was actually starting to hurt me. And then he just looked at me all serious and said "rough is the only way to have it". Little things like that.

My boyfriend has seen it and doesn't say anything and so has his mother because its truly just the way he is. But the comments when no one is around? Is there really anything I can do at this point to let him know I'm uncomfortable or even a certain way I should bring it up with my boyfriend without him thinking I'm accusing his father of hitting on me?

[TheHoneyBadger]

Even if that is "the way he is", its not an excuse for what is clearly inappropriate behavior. It is up to you how to handle it, but however you chose to, don't feel bad about bringing it up. He is the one who should feel embarrassed for acting inappropriately, not you. I would say either address it with him directly when he does something you're not okay with, in which case you need to be firm and not laugh when you do so he gets that its not you kidding along with it. The other option would be to mention your feelings about it to your boyfriend, who should be able to talk to him and tell him he isn't okay with the way he is treating you. In any case, it is wrong on his part, and it seems it is only getting worse, so the sooner you can address it, the better

[RamCharger_D]

Thaaat's weird. Your boyfriend should say something to him if you don't feel comfortable with it. Your boyfriends dad shouldn't ever touch your butt lol that's like an unspoken agreement

[Shanae_Bhadd]

Just Tell Your Boyfriend You Are Uncomfortable With His Father "playing" Around With You And You Would Like For It It To Cease. For Example tell Your Boyfriend To Have A Man To Man Conversation And Just Let Him Tell His Father That You Were Getting Uncomfortable... You Know With Out Hurtn His Feelings. But Shit If This Were Me I Would Have been Like Damn I get Your My Boyfriends Father But Your Ass Needa Chill Out... So You Know What I Mean Feel What Comes From The Heart Love Okae bye Hope I Helped

[ScarletteFox_Red]

WTF? I would seriously not go over there!! That is highly inappropriate and you need to tell your boyfriend EXACTLY what his pervert of a dad does and how it makes you feel. NOW.
It's not okay.

[9mfeo]

I mean, it seems to me that his father *is* hitting on you. I really don't know what you should do in this situation. Is it possible to make sure that you're never alone with the creepy dad?

[brain5000]

A man touching a woman without her consent is not okay. It borders on harassment, not affection. Tell him, his wife and your boyfriend that you feel uncomfortable around him. That behavior is inappropriate, and you would like for it to stop.

[Intraluminal]

You're going to have to be extremely direct. Tell him if he touches you again that you are going to kick him in the nuts as hard as you possibly can. And mean it!

[ArtDent]

One important life skill is learning to set boundaries.

[Iron_Man]

You need to open up about it all with your boy

[Asker]

I know but how.. I mean, he sees some of it and he does act like this with everyone..

[Iron_Man]

Just tell him the things that bother you the most when he's not around. You have to if not it gets worse like it has been for you

[giggleswilmington]

He's going to end up in jail.

[Let_me_do_that]

baby he want to take you xD

[Fishcake]

Give him a blow job