Okay, I know, this sounds terrible from the start. I've been best friends with this guy for almost 2 years. He came out to me about 5 months into our friendship. I've had a crush on him since the first time I laid eyes on him but I've repressed my feelings pretty well so far. I don't make it (too) obvious that I like him because I want to support him in his sexuality, focus on our friendship, etc.
However, I feel like he's starting to like me. Whenever we hang out, he flirts with me and when we go out to the movies he always pays for my ticket and food even though I offer to pay for my own. He'll be really playful with me like nudging me and grabbing me and tickling me. For Christmas he bought me something really expensive and nice and it was really thoughtful. His family owns a motel and during vacations he'll spend it there and we've spent a few nights together curled up together on one of the beds holding hands, cuddling, and talking.
Whenever I spend time at his house, we (almost) always hang out in his room and sometimes when we're laying on his bed together he holds my hands and plays with my hands and fingertips. When we go to dances/clubs, he grinds with me and lets me dance on him and flirt and get close, but every other girl who has tried this (even if it's casual), he'll kinda push them away. Most people think we're dating and most people thinks he likes me. I have friends who are secretly rooting for us to fall in love haha.
We've discussed having kids together and everything. I just don't know what to do. This closeness in our relationship has really only evolved over the past 3 months or so, but there's still the situation where he's a gay guy and I'm female. He's gone from long-haired and really emo/girly to more masculine. He's cut his hair and wears preppy clothes. He doesn't spend hardly any time prepping or getting himself ready to go out and just by looks, he looks straight.
This is like 8732984 questions evolved into one. Does anyone have advice as to how to handle this? Is there a possibility that he could like me in return? I'm so in love with him yet I don't know how to handle it all. I know it seems so ironic that, of course, I have fallen in love with my best guy friend. Thanks so much.
However, I feel like he's starting to like me. Whenever we hang out, he flirts with me and when we go out to the movies he always pays for my ticket and food even though I offer to pay for my own. He'll be really playful with me like nudging me and grabbing me and tickling me. For Christmas he bought me something really expensive and nice and it was really thoughtful. His family owns a motel and during vacations he'll spend it there and we've spent a few nights together curled up together on one of the beds holding hands, cuddling, and talking.
Whenever I spend time at his house, we (almost) always hang out in his room and sometimes when we're laying on his bed together he holds my hands and plays with my hands and fingertips. When we go to dances/clubs, he grinds with me and lets me dance on him and flirt and get close, but every other girl who has tried this (even if it's casual), he'll kinda push them away. Most people think we're dating and most people thinks he likes me. I have friends who are secretly rooting for us to fall in love haha.
We've discussed having kids together and everything. I just don't know what to do. This closeness in our relationship has really only evolved over the past 3 months or so, but there's still the situation where he's a gay guy and I'm female. He's gone from long-haired and really emo/girly to more masculine. He's cut his hair and wears preppy clothes. He doesn't spend hardly any time prepping or getting himself ready to go out and just by looks, he looks straight.
This is like 8732984 questions evolved into one. Does anyone have advice as to how to handle this? Is there a possibility that he could like me in return? I'm so in love with him yet I don't know how to handle it all. I know it seems so ironic that, of course, I have fallen in love with my best guy friend. Thanks so much.
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He's the one who usually initiates all of the flirtation. Btw, I see him first and foremost as my best friend- next, as a love interest. I'm trying to get over him because it seems like this happens too often to so many girls. I'm being optimistic ;)
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