I think a little heads up that you're not feeling well should come before the "I don't want to talk to you.." bit. And I think it should be changed to "anyone" vs you. Since it really is about people in general.
That would be most kind to a friend.
"Hey, I'm not feeling good today. I don't I want to talk to anyone right now."
And if you want to talk to them the next day or so, say so.
Do I think you're rude for feeling that way, not at all, it's natural for some people.
I don't think it is, everybody needs there downtime or aren't in the mood to talk to others. I have had to say this to people before and people generally take it well and are understanding usually I will answer there message they had first sent and then include something like I'm having a bad day or I'm in a mood today I'll talk to you a bit later sorry. I think people would prefer that than half hearted replies or no reply at all.
You are handling it very assertively. That's to be admired. A lot of people can't take social cues nowadays and expect that other people should always be in the mood to entertain whatever they have to say. Quite frankly, some people talk to much and silence us golden. I'm pretty sure if you say it politely, you could become one of the models of social behavior in my eyes☆☆☆☆☆
a Just as long as you say it as kindly as you possibly can. I prefer people to tell me this when it's true, which if they are saying it, it usually is because then I know their attitude, their mood, their actions at the moment have nothing to do with me. Saves time later with them having to make apologies or recant what they did/said, etc. because they were a bit off.
Hummm, I'd say probably a better approach would be to say something like, "I'm not feeling so great right now and I need to get going." Saying that you are not in the mood to talk to anyone, even if you say it has nothing to do with them, still it can cause them to take it personal. In my opinion. Although I think it depends on the person. Just my two cents and others might have an alternative opinion.
depends on how u say it mostly... if with a calm n gentle tone then most people with understand u are disturbed and dnt wanna talk! but if with a high and arrogant tone then yeap most people will take that as rude!
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Honestly I'd find that rude. You can come up with excuses, they might be lies but at least they don't make you sound like a bitch. I would never try and talk to you again if you said that to me so maybe it's best if you say "hey, I gotta make a call now but we chat later" or "I gotta go do some stuff right now but we'll catch up" or something.
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It depends on how you say it, how frequently, and whether or not you have a reason. If you politely say "It's nice to see you, but I'm not feeling well, so I don't want to talk much at the moment. Let's catch up soon." that's totally acceptable. But if you rudely push people away whenever you're not in the mood to talk to them, you risk losing those people as friends.
The way you say you would explain why you don't want to talk, I don't think it's rude. I don't do that, but I wouldn't mind if someone didn't want to talk and said they don't want to talk to anyone and that has nothing to do with me. Lol I'm a little neurotic so they would have to say it has nothing to do with me.
It's not rude, but it can make you come off as weak/lazy. Though I care more for the meaning behind words instead of which words are chosen to convey said meaning, the arrangement and "volume" of words can affect one's perception. I personally think what you have is fine and dandy.
No? I think it is much better to tell someone that you 'just want a few quiet moments to yourself, as you have had a busy day, and need to unwind', then to put up with people's crap and then finally blow your top! Lol 😂
It depends on how you say it to and who you say it to. If you say it to a freind and they know you. They will give you the space you need. If you say it to someone you don't know well they might take it the wrong way.
Well, if it's 'I don't want to talk to you' then it would be rude but the way you phrased it sounds fine. It's also preferable to being horrible to them and them thinking it's their fault :)
It's not rude to say your not in the mood to talk. It's how you apply it. There is a difference between:
"Sorry, but I don't feel like talking about it." vs. "I don't want to talk about it!"
I understand what you mean, because I'm very much the same. I'll just tell people, and explain to them not to take it personal I'm feeling like I'm in a weird mood.
I wanted to say no, because I don't think it's rude. But I'm the same way, and people are always talking about how inconsiderate I am when I just want to be left alone.
If I can't be bothered with people around me , I just tell them I need time alone, and I'll catch up with them tomorrow , or later...
Yes, no matter how bad i feel , i never will turn you down or anyone down who needs talk. The reason i never know when I would need someone to talk to.
It is rude...
I know what you mean - I feel like that often.
But it is rude. It all depends on how you say it.
Nah I do it all the time. I just say "sorry I'm not feeling very personable right now, but I'll catch up with you tomorrow."
I find I am even more rude if I don't just say it and let a person know. If its true then NO. Honest is better than resentment.
generally speaking, no~ it's not rude. but it's all in the delivery; how you say it matters too.
There's basically nothing wrong with that. Just tell them what you said above & it should be fine. Everyone has one of these days once in a while.
Only an idiot perceives a lack of conversation as rude. Selfish too.
Lol nope. I've told people I'm not in the mood to talk to them.
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